~ the Buck Stops Here ~

“Stop Expecting People to show up the way you want them to and allow them to show up as they are, and stop holding people hostage for what you they should or shouldn’t have done”  Iyanla Vanzant

I couldn’t have said this better myself!

What happens when we fall in love, develop a core friendship, have children, parents etc…..is we see them through the lens of our perceptions and the stories of OUR lives. After the “fairy” dust settles and the child grows, time passes in a friendship and the spouse becomes “comfortable”….what is there?

This is a question that has crossed the minds ( either consciously or not) of every man, woman and parent living on this planet earth.

What gives us ANY right to think that someone else is responsible for our happiness?

Well I am not a psychologist…..but it all seems to point back to our childhood. What happens when we get hurt and what goes on at birthday and holiday time? We are born and begin living watching people please us …we soon find out that the way TO GET WHAT WE WANT is ….to please and expect to be pleased by others. So we DO BE and ACT in a certain way…that is then expected of us ( and we expect it back from others)

What a complete recipe for sadness and despair, anger and jealousy not to mention some resentment thrown in there too.

So what can we do about this? I don’t think anyone, anytime soon is going to stop giving their newborns and growing children love/affection with hopes to please them….but at some point we ALL need to see that true happiness/pleasure is our very own personal responsibility AND that any other gestures of pleasing from others is an added bonus.

AND something else very cool happens, when we ensure our OWN personal happiness….we have MORE to give others and then the feelings are naturally boomeranged right back to us…….WONDERFUL.

How are some ways you can be responsible for your own happiness?

1. Write down everything that makes you unhappy and then look for/do/be the opposite of everything on that list.

2. Keep an abundance journal or board AND every day make note of everything positive/free/abundant that comes to you. ( and if you focus on this MORE with naturally come ( almost magically).

3. Focus on ways to give. This does not have to cost money OR take much time….perhaps a flower, a smile, a compliment. “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you” . THE BONUS – you will FEEL GREAT!

4. Work at a job you LOVE or do your job and find a hobby that you look forward to spending time on.

5. Say I love you and show it to those you care for as much as you can. (If they say ‘enough already – I know you love me’ then you will know you are giving out lots of love.)

6. Do something that YOU LOVE- FOR YOU everyday ( again – does not have to cost money or much time).

……..I encourage  you to take this short list and run with it….start with what is here and make it super long…..and specific to you.

YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR HAPPINESS. To quote Andy Andrews from the “Traveler’s Gift” ...the buck stops here!

Mona McClelland

Professional Life and Health Coach

the “Busy Mom Mentor”

 

~ What is an Empowered Woman anyways? ~

This post was inspired by my beautiful 21 year old daughter who is navigating her way, on HER journey in this world.

This week she called me from Montreal, where she is going to University, to tell me that she really needed someone to talk to.

By the time we spoke she had spoken to another friend of hers and was feeling much better but the issue at hand, although with more clarity at this point, was still gnawing at her.

She started by saying to me that her recently uprooted living situation had really got the best of her and that she thought she should sign up for some ‘assertiveness training classes’ to help empower her in the future.

Okay, I know you are a busy professional working mom, wondering what a story about a 21  year University student has to do with YOU? Everything….keep reading!

Now in my 5th decade of life I look back at all the things I was NEVER taught and am so very excited that my daughters (and I think most children these days) are learning HOW to be assertive….to NOT accept bullying, and to cultivate and LIVE their passions from such a very young age. AND where would I be today if I had learned these things in my 20s?

As I listened to my daughter talk about her conundrum……I had a great amount of empathy. It would not be any fun ….if after 2 months of selecting the ‘right’ place to live and then 2 months living there (after moving across the country) that you have to uproot and move again. Then of course deliberating on the new “right place to be” with the “right” roommates…..and having someone else squeak in and scoop THAT one too.

Here is what I told her:

First that what she was having to deal with SUCKED….big time.

And that if taking an assertiveness training would make her feel more empowered then go for it.

BUT what I thought she really needed to hear was this……

SHE WAS ALREADY EMPOWERED.……and it was because of the following 5 steps that she intuitively took:

1. She took stock of her situation and made a DECISION of what was best for her ( she had to leave the present living situation – it was a drag – but living with others more suited to her demographic would be better).

2. She set a timeline……(after midterms – again taking care of HER needs).

3. She took action and found 2 places that were suitable.

4. Support……When she felt overwhelmed or confused she reached out for help.

5. She was in touch with her emotions. Lets face it ladies…in this world we are still taught that being and showing emotions ( negative ones ) is unacceptable and YES uncomfortable. BUT they are called E-Motions for a reason….feel them ……and let them MOVE through you and out. Otherwise they WILL get stuck in your body and cause all sorts of BIGGER DISCOMFORT later.

I told her that she is one of the most empowered women I know and that is takes more courage to reach out and be vulnerable about a situation than act like an ISLAND  thinking you can do it ALL by yourself.

So now that you know what  a truly EMPOWERED woman is and what she does to be that way. I bet YOU can look in the mirror and see one looking right back at you.

Take care of yourself first ladies….because if you don’t…..everyone else depending on you will either walk all over you OR they won’t have YOU to depend on for long. A BURNT-OUT mom is no good to anyone.

My offer still stands….. I get that it is hard to reach out for help. But now that you know ( or are reminded) that it is a sign of STRENGTH  not weakness …...you can ask for help too.

Discover  now what is missing in your life……it is my honour to be there with you and hold your hand as you do!  (even if you are depressed, tired, lazy and/or have no goals).

Blessings,

Mona

the”Busy Mom Mentor”

….and remember “When Moms Happy, Everyone’s Happy”

By Your Words…You Have the Power

We are powerful beyond measure...but so many people do not want to take the time to HEAR their own words and are then shocked to see what has unfolded in their lives.

No, you do not have to monitor your every word…BUT you may want to make it a point to speak the words of your desire and ONLY of your desire and then look again  to see  what may magically appear before your very eyes…..

How do I attract or repel abundance with my words you might ask….?

Here is how……

(…. the following is an excerpt from the Book the Game of Life and How to Play it…by Florence Scovel Shinn)

**Ms. Scovel Shinn frequently refers in her teaching to messages that were written in the scripture and  taught by Jesus. Regardless of your faith – I encourage you to read the deeper meaning of the message as a Spiritual Truth or Universal Law**

 

“By your words ye are justified and by your words ye are condemned.”

Many people have brought disaster into their lives through idle words.

For example: A woman once asked me why her life was now one of poverty of limitation?

Formerly she had a home, was surrounded by beautiful things and had often tired of the management of her home, and had said repeatedly, “I’m sick and tired of things – I wish I lived in a trunk,” and she added: “Today I am living in that trunk.” She had spoken herself into a trunk. The subconscious mind has no sense of humor and people often joke themselves into unhappy experiences.

For example: A woman who had a great deal of money, joked continually about “getting ready for the poorhouse.”

In a few years she was almost destitute, having impressed the subconscious mind with a picture of lack and limitation.

Fortunately the law works both ways, and a situation of lack may be changed to one of plenty.

For example: A woman came to me one hot summer’s day for a “treatment” for prosperity. She was worn out, dejected and discouraged. She said she possessed just eight dollars in the world. I said, “Good, we’ll bless the eight dollars and multiply them as Jesus multiplied the loaves and fishes,” for He taught that every man had the power to bless and to multiply, to heal and to prosper.

She said, “What shall I do next?”

 I replied, “Follow intuition. Have you a ‘hunch’ to do anything, or to go anywhere?” Intuition means, intuition, or to be taught from within. It is man’s unerring guide, and I will deal more fully with its laws in a following chapter.

The woman replied: “I don’t know – I seem to have a ‘hunch’ to go home; I’ve just enough money for carfare.” Her home was in a distant city and was one of lack and limitation, and the reasoning mind (or intellect) would have said: “Stay in New York and get work and make some money.” I replied, “Then go home – never violate a hunch.” I spoke the following words for her: Infinite Spirit open the way for great abundance for –. She is an irresistible magnet for all that belongs to her by divine right.” I told her to repeat it continually also. She left for home immediately. In calling on a woman one day, she linked up with an old friend of her family.

Through this friend, she received thousands of dollars in a most miraculous way. She has said to me often, “Tell people about the woman who came to you with eight dollars and a hunch.”

There is always plenty on man’s pathway; but it can only be brought into manifestation through desire, faith or the spoken word. Jesus brought out clearly that man must make the first move.

by Florence Scovel Shinn

 

Mona McClelland

the Busy Mom Mentor and Abundance Coach

www.WhenMomsHappy.com/life

5 Secrets to an Abundant Life:

On the wall in BIG letters of Dr Phillips office a sign reads “the ISness is the Business”

When I truly take the time to subscribe to this simple but profound philosophy, I can clearly see HOW abundant my life IS now. Like most people, I am constantly growing and learning how to achieve more in my life…..but the funny thing is the busier my life gets…the less I seem to get done and I cannot see the forest for the trees so to speak. This I find Ironic.

When I create more in my life I am ALWAYS doing less. No, that does not mean I am sitting on a park bench waiting for my life to happen….it means I have paid attention to my vision, created some action steps and I am living in faith that my emotional guidance system will take me intuitively in the direction I need to go next to get to where I want to go.

BUT there are some very simple and powerful secrets that I use along the way to attract more and more abundance into my life. Would you like to know what they are?

My 5 Secrets for (attracting) an abundant life.

1.Slow down
When I graduated from high school I remember feeling already behind the eight ball …It seemed there was so much to do and so little time to do it ( I was 17 ). And from this feeling of anxiety and ignorance I began my journey into “the real world” without a plan….going two steps forward and one back most of the time.
There are many things in life that will demand attention and distract you from your path. We also complicate our lives further checking in several times a day to some piece of technology to see what everyone else is doing out there in cyberspace. It just seems that we all fill in any spare moment with anything so as to NOT waste time. Rush, rush, rush…that seems to be the modus operandi today.
If you can slow down, you will become more relaxed. When you are more relaxed you are able to “hear” what it is that YOU need to do next to CREATE the abundance you want in your life. Creative ideas only come at a time when you are relaxed and not when you are stressed….( or surfing facebook again – for Pete’s sake!)

2. Let go of worry
A situation is what it is whether you worry about it or not. It is the worry itself that creates the stress in your body which in turn creates more stress and worry! I get that it is hard to not worry about our kids, finances and the unknown future. AND I think it is important to acknowledge this state of mind when it happens…..because suppressing it causes a whole other string of events and chemical reactions in the body. I like to say… “it has to come up to come out”. So, while it might not be possible to stop the “thought attacks” it is very possible to stop, focus on your senses ( what you see, feel, hear etc) in the moment to bring you back down to earth. When you mind is full of anxiety you are STOPPING abundance from helping you find opportunity and real solutions.

3. The ISness is the Business

Your wondrously creative mind is only able to do one thing at a time. (although you may think differently) Living abundantly means to be free to BE and respond calmly in the moment. So, when you are spontaneous you are able to make things happen seemingly effortlessly. Whatever it IS you are doing….do it fully present and allow yourself to attract abundance in to your world fearlessly (and see how free you feel – CAUTION- this can become addictive …Woo hoo).

4. Stop multi tasking

This is one thing that most women are famous for…..and the more things you can do at once the more you will get done…right? WRONG. You will get trapped in the busyness and just create MORE work and busy-ness. Then you are trapped on the proverbial hamster wheel of life….Spinning dizzily into despair. The emotional wear and tear ranges from nervousness, anxiety to overwhelm and stress. It is simply absurd to think that it is productive to do multiple things in one given moment.
You suffocate your ability to attract any abundance by taxing the creative mind to splice its focus towards too many tasks at one time. The simple truth is that you can only do one thing at one time. Being focused AND fully present in the moment, you will create and attract what you want quickly and with ease.

5. Get grounded in nature

Just look outside at the natural abundance of Nature. There is a simple ease to its creation. Seeds blow in the wind, take root and grow. Everything necessary is provided (wind, sun, water) there is no need to struggle. If you are ever “beside yourself” taxed…nothing is going right in your day…..get outside….barefoot in the grass if possible (hug a tree – no joke). Your energy will be grounded immediately – rooted back into the earth. You will breathe and reconnect with your spirit. Abundance is all around you. You are the vessel that makes it come to you or repel from you.

Ps…..and one other thing STOP scheduling so much in your day…I promise you will get it all done….bite sized pieces….there will always be more to do.

Mona McClelland
the “Busy Mom Mentor”
WhenMomsHappy.com

The Ultimate Time Out ~ for Busy Working Moms

What can I say…..Back To School IS the Ultimate Time OUT for most busy working moms!

This is the time that routines are established and as the leaves turn red and gold a different kind of bus-y-ness occurs. I call this “controlled” chaos. Yes you are busy again trying to cram in all the new activities and old ones but it is also a time for renewal….much more so in my opinion than January 1st.

So here are a few tips for you to get your self ready for ”the Ultimate Time Out”. If you plan and prepare for YOUR needs as the school season begins …you are much more likely to continue taking care of yourself right through the onset of the New Year.

 

1. Get the kids to bed Start now…. if the kids have been up WAY past their bedtime throughout the summer then start at least one week prior to the first day of school and gradually get them into bed 15 min earlier each night until you are at the “regular” school night bedtime. Guess What? This means you can re-establish your bedtime routine and enjoy quiet time (out) that is necessary for your self renewal .

2. Pay attention to what you are eating

As the seasons change…so do your bodies. The plethora of fresh fruits that you enjoy through the warm summer months…are also packed with sugar (a stimulant)…albeit Mother Nature sugar…still as the season turns cooler the natural desire for more warming foods will become more welcomed.Both you and your kids will feel better when you begin again to eat three good meals a day. Make time to do the planning together. And then if it works in your kitchen allow them to help…this is great bonding time for you and your kids and can be YOUR time together…thus spending less time with them at bedtime and creating more time for YOU.

3. Move YOUR Body

Do something – anything.  Plan time twice a week to share exercise with your kids. Otherwise start now to plan the classes and the time (out) just for you to take care of yourself. If you eliminate one thing every week from your schedule that does not serve your highest good (being vibrant and healthy)  then you WILL find the time to move your body in a way that is fun and invigorating for you.

4. Put your best face forward

“To look good …is to feel good , Dahling”  Treat yourself to a NEW look, get a great haircut. Find a affordable outfits that you will love to wear. Smile….you can not hold a negative thought and smile. Keep smiling…. the negative thought will atrophy and you will look good, feel good …you will smile more.

5.Laugh 

For one month….only watch shows/movies that make you laugh. You’ll automatically feel better. Stay away from negative news (magazines,papers and radio). Find the humour in everyday situations

6. Gratitude 

Every night at bedtime, take two minutes to count your blessings. Make a gratitude list. Write it down and then every night look at it and add to it often.  Help your kids create one  too.

7. Don’t be a Martyr

You don’t have to do it all alone. Ask for help from family, friends, co-workers, and organizations for help.  People love to be needed, including your kids …as long as you are not “using” them, reach out ask for what you need….and when the time comes you can reciprocate ( good role modeling for the kids and another way to feel good and take a time out for YOU).

8. Pray/Meditate/Breathe

Every single day….to round off the ULTIMATE time out ….spend time to connect with YOUR God. Whatever that is for you: Nature, music, church, sitting by the ocean, yoga…. Do something that makes you feel whole. ( if this is new to you, start with once a week and increase the frequency)….It will become a place to come home…to yourself …everyday that you won’t want to miss. (…and it will help you tremendously with the controlled chaos of your “new” year… starting right now.)

….One more thing …..you are NOT a supermom and your kids are not “superkids”  lower your expectations of yourself and your kids and YOU will find that YOU will create an ULTIMATE time out habit  that will stand the test of time. YOUR Time!

….and of course, Remember……“When Moms Happy…Everyone’s Happy”
Mona McClelland
the “Busy Mom Mentor”

ps….if you found this helpful and know of someone else who would benefit too, please pass it along…they WILL thank you.

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Play with kids – make money

If you are reading this post, I am almost sure it is because of the subject title AND I know that you are more than a little bit curious about HOW you might play with your kids and make money.

Well we both know there are several ways that you could do that, just type in google and ask “how to play with kids and make money”….but what I am talking about is HOW you can structure your busy life, work, family, spouse, finances and self care and make money too (whether it be your dream job, work from home or figuring out HOW to make your “hobby” support your desired lifestyle.)

AND the irony of it all, is in the years I have been coaching, the one thing that will stop MOST women dead in their tracks, is having an idea and then getting STUCK on the HOW. Believe me, sister, ALL you need is the WHAT (the inspired idea), hold on to it, and the HOW will present itself. …And right now you are probably saying ” oh really……HOW”?

Today I am simply going to share with you 5 steps…Tips, I guess, but if you really do these 5 steps you will create a strong foundation to start manifesting DELIBERATELY your ideal EVERYTHING.

There is nothing different about me….from any of you.  Not too long ago I was a confused, messed up, depressed, single mom. One day I decided to take stock of what gifts I already had to offer the world, what my strengths were, then I decided to ‘get help’ …I hired a coach….and from there got clear on what/who I wanted in my life.  Oh Yah…I hit some roadblocks…BUT those roadblocks were GOLD, they showed me what was stopping me from stepping up and out ( even though at times I was as nervous as Bambi standing for the first time on new wobbly legs) But guess what….I got stronger….and YOU will too!

Ok…ready to make some changes in your world?

Remember I had no special talents or advantages. Anyone can do this stuff–including YOU.

1. Get Clear on Your Purpose

Remember I said all you needed to figure out is the WHAT you want…the inspiration for your life? Want to make your dreams come true? Clarifying this purpose is the one most important thing you must do

Having a crystal clear…focused understanding
of WHAT you truly want to do or give the world allows you to make decisions quick and easy. It keeps you on track with your goal markers. It helps you avoid getting side tracked and making mistakes. And it brings you back quickly to a simple quick-reference point for staying the course, (when challenges occur).

What you truly desire must be relevant to you. Why? Because it’s the compass for your LIFE. Why should you get that new job, start a new business, lose 25 pounds?  Don’t hang out with Dream Stealers (or give them ANY of your precious time).Know that it’s okay to like WHAT you like and to pursue your own path!

2. Follow a Plan

If you want to do three errands and still get to the school in time to pick up your kids…. you plan out the quickest and most efficient route right? This way you can get it all done and be on time. Oh sure you can just hop in the car and hope you get it all done BUT if you follow your simple plan you won’t waste any time, can just follow the plan and get the tasks completed effectively.

Keep your ability to become distracted by creating a check list and follow your plan. Keep your weaknesses in check–by following a plan.

There is really a very simple way to chart any goal IF you use two strategies: Creating a deadline and being accountable.

Deadlines force you to get serious complete your tasks, and show you clearly when you are NOT staying true to your plan. Firm deadlines help to eliminate excuses, and stop you from getting caught up in BUSY- ness that has nothing to do with your desired result.

And that’s where accountability comes in. You need some way to keep yourself on track.  For me “the coach” helped a ton…and the fact that I laid some money on the line too. You know it is not that you are purposely going to lie to yourself but the memory is fallible, and it’s easy to imagine you’re getting more accomplished more than you really think you are, just because you’re “working on it.” Oh boy, am I ever good at falling into that one. A system of accountability gives you a way to track your progress.

Use these tools and you can accomplish any task you set for yourself.

3. Houseclean Your Life

Oh yah… I can hear you groan…NO MORE housecleaning…puullease!  But this type of housecleaning will GIVE you energy and space to receive what you have set out to get.

First – get rid of the people who are pulling you down and taking you away from your dreams….

OUCH – harsh right…okay you do not have to disown anyone. BUT really limit your time with these well intentioned “loved ones” who tell you that you cannot do what you WANT to do. They think they are keeping you from getting hurt or failing. Well guess what? They are not you…it is not their life…Thank them and carry on with YOUR dreams. (These would be the dream stealers I mentioned earlier). Also keep your distance from nagging, complaining, energy drainers….people AND violent drama on TV and in the news,

Make better choices of what  and who you want to share your environment with. AND guess what …when you change yourself and are true to yourself…they won’t come around you anymore AND you will not enjoy sources of “negative” entertainment that you once allowed to seep into your being….

Other housecleaning to do?….Yep, get rid of clutter, tie up loose ends, get a debt repayment program going, so you can focus on building wealth and abundance. “GET YOUR HOUSE IN ORDER”…make room for the new. “YOUR HOUSE” is your environment….as you clean it….WHAT you now want will be able to find a space to call home.

Know also that in choosing to do one thing, you’re also choosing not to do an awful lot of other things. Commit to people, actions or things only when they’re in line with Item 1 on this list–WHAT YOU WANT – for your life – your purpose.

4. Embrace Responsibility for Your Life

Oh I have been the biggest victim of circumstance in my life….OMG… but I had to let go of all that stuff…SO what!! ..”The past is the past for a reason – ITS OVER” Sounds harsh doesn’t it…yes I know….I remember finally waking up to this fact and I think for a while I became more of a victim “nobody understood me”. BUT the LOVING truth is you aren’t a victim of your childhood or your past or your circumstances–unless you choose to be. There are no excuses.

When I realized the “buck” stopped here…. I had to stop making excuses and I stopped waiting for others to help me. Instead, I started changing my life AND I sought out an invested in me AND the kind of help and resources I needed.

It didn’t always feel easy and some days I can still slide a little backwards (my latest EXCUSE…menopause – ha ha). I assure you, it DOES get easier when you get clear about your purpose and you embrace it with fierce desire. When you’re driven by that purpose of what you really want in your life and when every action you take is aligned with it, it’s easy to stay on track and receive every goal or marker you set for yourself.

5. Focus on Direct Action

Start taking Action. Lay out the first step ( if you do not know the step after that …that is okay..It will reveal itself) But, don’t let that stop you. TAKE the first step fearlessly and watch what unfolds by taking direct action puts YOU in the driver’s seat and in control of your destiny. If you are not taking charge, then you are handing someone else control of your life.

I get that there are people there to take into consideration. Your spouse, perhaps, your kids too, but I am sure that you get that there is a difference between finding your dream and taking steps to make it happen and asking permission. You are a grown, powerful, vibrant woman with so much to give the world and when you step out and take action, not only will YOU benefit but of course so will those you love.

So as you can see here, there is no magic potion or spell. The things we want do not instantly manifest on our front lawns on a whim. You just have to step out and take them. All it requires is desire, strategy, some hard work (which moms are already familiar with) and the determination to see it through.

These 5 steps worked for me, and they’ll work for you too. Embrace them and you’ll be well on your way to creating the life you’ve always dreamed of.

Mona

the “Busy Mom Mentor”

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Namaste

What a waste of Energy

You can not control others………. Intellectually that makes perfect sense right? Then why is it that you keep trying?

There is a difference between trying to control or change others AND having your needs met.

The first is YOU trying to make those around you behave in a way that works for YOU in your life.

The latter is YOU asking speaking out, communicating what you need ( and most of those needs can be met by you!)

Even really simple things can drive you crazy like, having the toothpaste tube squeezed in the middle instead of  having it rolled up from the bottom, a new roll of TP put on instead of just leaving the empty cardboard tube and even driving yourself crazy because your kid did not do what you asked him/her for the 100th time. ARGHHH!

Well, just think about all the stress you are causing yourself and all the energy you are wasting by getting yourself so worked up inside. But what are you to do about it……how can YOU control them or get THEM to change (so YOU can feel better)? Wow, I am just tired trying to follow that train of thought.

Well, here are two things you can do right away:

1. Tell the person HOW you FEEL about it and ASK them if they can agree to do this for you or at least meet you half way. (now I know with kids it takes a little longer – BUT believe me, even with kids it is “human nature” to follow through with doing the task or request IF you give them your reason.) Has it ever worked to just “want” to do what you are told ( maybe only for fear of repercussions?) AND all the complaining in the world will NOT work…it will just make others turn a deaf ear or not want to be around you.

2.  Take a deep breath , ask yourself HOW truly important this is to you….can you relax and just let it go ( and if not WHY not?). Then let it go….It may still bother you, but if you can do this time and time again, before you know it, the more calm you are and things are getting done AND your calm energy will move around you and throughout your environment. Others will love being around you AND things WILL get done.

Lets face it …it is truly the small little things that build up that interfere with YOUR own peace of mind…..WHY are you letting that happen to you? Yes, YOU, are letting that happen to you and maybe even hindering some very loving relationships where that energy could be used for nurturing instead dismantling.

And if you really still feel you can not let go of the need to CONTROL……well how about funneling that energy to areas of your life and focus on things that are really in your control. YOU WILL feel better!  I guarantee it! ( but remember the key is to do these things – shift your focus – the mind can only hold one thought or focus at a time!)

Right now YOU are in charge of:

1. Your level of honesty.
2. How many times you smile today.
3. How often you say “thank you.”
4. What you spend your money on.

5. How you act on your feelings
6. Whether or not you give someone the benefit of the doubt.
7. Whether you listen or wait to talk.
8. When you walk away from a conversation.
9. The type of food you eat.
10. How much time you spend worrying.

11. How much exercise you get.
12. How many times you swear at others in traffic.
13. How often you think about your past.
14. How many negative articles you read or news you listen to.
15. The loving  attention you give to your spouse & kids when you see them.

16. How much you enjoy your kids right now.
17. Whether or not you communicate something that’s on your mind.
18. How you interpret situations.
19. How often you notice & appreciate small acts of kindness-they’re everywhere!

20. How deeply you breathe when you experience stress.
21. How many times you say “I love you.”

Food for thought isn’t it?

Just think of all the extra energy you will have when you stop trying to control and manage others and just manage yourself? Ahhh Bliss……


Can’t seem to STOP doing what is bringing you what you DON”T want in your life?

Maybe I can help you….Well in fact I KNOW I can help you.

Sometimes doesn’t it feel good to get an objective point of view…..One that can help you “see the forest for the trees” of should I say ” feel seen, heard and valued in YOUR world”?…Stop complaining - start attracting what you really want…give that all your attention, energy and focus.

You want more love….give more love (but not to someone if they are abusing  you), want more money, clean up your debt and start focusing on wealth and abundance, want more time….simplify your life and focus on what YOU TRULY WANT. STOP COMPLAINING about what you don’t want…cause guess what YOU WILL JUST GET MORE OF THAT.

Don’t know what you want ?  In 30 minutes with me ……YOU WILL KNOW.

Time to Discover what you Want to HAVE in your life. This is your movie…time to step into YOUR starring role!

….or you can just continue to get what you are getting now.  CHOOSE something NEW TODAY.

….and Remember  “When Moms Happy….Everyone’s Happy”


 

 

 

 

Mona

the “Busy Mom Mentor”

ps. if this messages today has helped you, even in the smallest of ways, please pass it on to others who are waiting to be inspired to create what they truly want in their lives.

~ How to say Thank you ~

What I want you to pay particular notice to when you are reading this is….which one of these ways to say thank you is the one that resonates with you the  most?  When you know what it is then let everyone know that this is HOW you like to be thanked….that this is the way that you most feel loved ( because guess what …everyone else is showing love and gratitude in the way they most want to feel and receive love……thus the problem.

YOU must know your way and then communicate that to those who you most want to receive love from!

 

Please read to what Britt Reints of  “In Pursuit of Happiness.net” writes…….

 

 5 love languages people use to communicate with each other. A “love language” is the type of communication a person tends to understand most easily, and may include:

 

 

  •  Words of Affirmation
  • Quality Time
  • Receiving Gifts
  • Acts of Service
  • Physical Touch

Our love language is the communication that we get, and it tends to be the one we use most often when we’re trying to send a message to someone else. Of course, if that person is more fluent in a different language, our true intent might get lost in translation.

Saying Thank You with Words of Affirmation

This is my native tongue. The more words you use, the more connected I feel. The best way to make someone like me feel appreciated is to open your mouth and say, “thank you.” You can also:

  • Write a letter or email
  • Send a text
  • Post to my Facebook wall

It doesn’t matter where you say it, but what you say will have a big impact. Say thank you and tell me why you’re thanking me – and you’ll make my day.

Saying Thank You with Quality Time

This is how my mom communicates. The best way to thank someone like her is to spend an afternoon hanging out on her deck with her. Other ways to show gratitude she’ll get include:

  • Making a phone call
  • Sharing a meal
  • Going for a drive or walk together

My mom is a cheap date, but letting her know she matters requires a little investment of time.

Saying Thank You with Gifts

I suspect my friend Megan speaks this language well, because she often sends little gifts to let me know I’m loved. Of course the most obvious way to show my gratitude is to return the favor, but that doesn’t mean saying thank you has to cost a fortune. Some inexpensive thank you gifts this week could be:

  • An ebook you know they’d enjoy
  • A song or movie rental on iTunes for a title that makes you think of them
  • A fridge magnet made from a picture of the two of you

It’s not the dollar amount that speaks the loudest, but the thought and effort.

Saying Thank You with Acts of Service

This is the language my mother-in-law speaks most easily. She does because she loves. What does she do? She cooks, she cleans, she babysits, and she picks up clothes in your size at garage sales. Saying thank you to someone who doesn’t say much can be tricky. You might try:

  • Cooking dinner
  • Doing a household chore
  • Offering up your work for free (logo design, photo editing, whatever it is you do and normally charge for)

They key for these non-verbal thank yous is to mix the act with a few words that make it clear that you are, in fact, grateful – especially if you’re unsaying thank you for something in particular.

Saying Thank You with Physical Touch

This is Jared’s language. The easiest way to turn his frown upside is to touch him – or let him touch me. Ahem. A few  family-friendly ways to thank someone like my husband might include:

  • A hug
  • A squeeze of the hand
  • A good handshake

A handshake might sound lame if you’re not a touchy person, but watch one exchanged between two men who have a lot of respect for one another and you’ll understand that it can mean more than, “hello, my name is…”

What’s your favorite way to say thank you? How are you planning to say thank you this week?  Please email me back and let me know!

 What would it be worth to you to discover the secrets to being SEEN, Heard and Valued in your World? Priceless!

Attract more time, money and love by being seen, heard and valued in your world ( 497.00 value) today 197.00 Click here to discover How

 

…and remember  When Moms Happy…Everyone’s Happy


Mona McClelland

the “Busy Mom Mentor”




Is Sugar making your body Toxic

Is Sugar making  Your Body Toxic 

Here is a Video that  will show you how sugar not only causes heart disease and diabetes, but also feeds tumors and causes them to grow, plus is as addictive as Cocaine to your brain……( making you crave more and more and ……..)

 Everyone needs to watch this video from a recent episode of 60 Minutes.  I don’t think most people understand  just how harmful sugar is to your health OR the seriousness of this epidemic.  Most people blindly eat and drink loads of sugar each day, unbeknownst to most of them. (Americans consume an incredible 1/3 lb of sugar per DAY on average). How is this internally affecting your body and your biochemistry?

 Please share this page with all of your family and friends so they can be empowered to deeply, positively affect their health, well being and longevity. 

What I believe  is that food manufacturers want you to be addicted to sugar and continue to buy their junk food and sugar laden products which will destroy your health.

It really should be no surprise to anyone today that  excess sugar consumption contributes to obesity, type 2 diabetes, heart disease, and cancer.

Your argument might be that some natural sugars have always been a part of the human diet, and why would this be an issue?  Yes, we have always eaten small amount from fruit ( in season )….this was a part of our ancestral diet.  But for the first time in history we are exposed to massive quantities of ADDED sugars. Just look at an average street corner in any city in America ( usually at least two shops of the four corners are selling,  flavored coffees, muffins, cakes, cookies, sweets, sweets, and more sweets. AND sugar is hiding in most of the condiments, dressings and tomatoes sauces to boot!

The average American eats a gross 130 lbs of sugar per person per year, or 1/3 lb per day!  Personally I think this is just blatant disrespect for the body….or ignorance. WAKE UP…..make some changes NOW.

Did you also see in the video how in one controlled study, they replaced 25% of the daily calories of the subjects with sugary drinks, then took blood tests every 30 minutes around the clock?  These tests showed that by replacing 25% of their daily calories with sugary drinks, the subjects increased their dangerous small dense LDL particles in their blood which causes arterial plaque and heart disease.  Soooo….. sugar and carbs contribute more to hurting our  hearts than fats do.

And did you also catch the bit about how sugar feeds tumors and can make cancer worse? Yikes!

Finally, some evidence by the medical community that proves what I was taught over 20 years ago ( and-FYI, it was really hard for me to change back then )….SUGAR is bad stuff.

If you must have something sweet…..check the studies about honey and some other natural sweeteners…. in small amounts they are not anywhere near as bad for you as the “white stuff”( remember the white stuff is processed)….stay away from HGFS and when you indulge try a piece of 85 % dark chocolate OR Raw chocolate….YUM ( not the whole bar…just a square.)

There are so many other great foods to eat and with the internet now, a plethora, an infinite number of recipes are just waiting to tantalize the taste buds. Save the sweets for special occasions……feast on those days ( not everyday!)

Please take just a moment right now and as I mentioned at the start of this message…share this with everyone you know and love!

To a Long, Healthy and  Vibrant Life

 

 

 

 

 

Mona McClelland

Professional Health & Certified Life Coach

Author of “the Visible Blueprint”  7 steps to more Time, Money and Love

aka the “Busy Mom Mentor”  www.WhenMomsHappy.com

Do you need more money?

My experience in working with my clients has proved to me over and over again that you want more in your life…..and in over 90% of the cases, what you want most is, more time, more MONEY and more love.

So today we are going to talk about Money: why you don’t have it, why it is never enough and how to get more of it.

First of all you must understand that money is just energy. What do I mean by that? Well…if money is just sitting on a table, minding its own business….it is static….it does nothing. BUT the energy YOU give money by your thoughts, beliefs and perspective determines how easily money flows to you or or AVOIDS you.

Here is what I mean by that.

Money is attracted to order. So, Is your home in order? Your car? Your relationships? Your body? Your mind?

As you decide to find a way to create more money in your life or  move into your next money level, you must do some preparation !

It’s impossible to BE the same and HAVE different. If you want your life to ULTIMATELY change, YOU must ultimately change who you are, how you think and feel about money, who/what you are connected to and what you are doing.

Friendships may need to come to an end. (yes, some friendships simply limit your ability to grow in many areas including finances)

Closets may need some cleaning out. (remember money likes order)

Your body may need to go on a cleanse. (renew and rejuvenate your body and mind)

Believe me, the more you release from your life that no longer serves you, the QUICKER  you will create your new financial level.

You must ruthlessly separate all poverty and beliefs about poverty (regardless of your current circumstances) to attract more money. This is what I mean when I talk about  poverty – I mean low-level frequency, toxic, stagnant – people, places, activities, thoughts & things!!!!

Here is an easy assignment you can do – write down any “poverty” in your life and make a choice to let it go. Then also write down what you will replace it with.

Examples:

Low frequency (poverty): Messy Closet – just can’t let go of something that you have worn for YEARS …just in case you might wear it one more time??? ( I know I used to do this one) – get rid of it!

Action : De-clutter Closet

High-frequency (prosperity)
- only bring into your closet that which you need or want. Only what you enjoy wearing… what makes you feel good.

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Low frequency (poverty): Friend with the “glass half full” mentality. You can still love this friend…but radically limit the amount of time you spend with her.

Action : When you are with her, immediately stop her when she begins her complaining again. ( Simply interrupt her and then ask ” So, ______, What do you want?”. This question will not only stop her in her tracks…but it will get her to start thinking of a solution. If she continues to bring you down to her level….you may have to stop keeping company with her

High-frequency (prosperity)
: Find a group of people who are like minded. Join a in-person or online group or coaching program that will take you to the places and the mindset that creates the changes you want to see in your world.

….Remember….it all starts with your Vision….have you created your Life Script yet?

If not…here is where you start.

And remember…When Moms Happy ….Everyone’s Happy”!

Mona McClelland
“the Busy Mom Mentor”