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~ Stop resisting abundance ~

Yep,  that is what I said…..stop resisting abundance.

What do I mean by that? It is simple……but it takes some conscious awareness to stop this habit and turn things around.

Habit? Now I am calling it a habit? Yessirree, and a bad one at that.

A good place to start is to identify how a habit is formed. Every day you probably do some of the same things over and over. Like; brush your teeth, have a shower, make coffee, read the paper…….A habit is simply formed by doing a certain activity over and over again. This habit can be beneficial OR it can become detrimental to your life…stopping you from getting exactly that which you want.

Today I am simply going to tell you how to stop resisting attracting abundance into your life by forming a new habit.

First, pick a day, any day that you can focus on your thoughts, words and actions. What you are looking for is a pattern of thought (words or actions) that focus on what you don’t want.

Ex: Perhaps every day you don’t like the sound of your alarm clock and every morning, think or say…”that damn clock is annoying”, then you get up and you find yourself rushing, and again you think ” I hate feeling so rushed, why don’t I give myself more time in the morning”, get stuck in traffic and curse and complain about that. You get the idea. You will soon see what you spend a huge amount of time focusing on and will get a glimpse of why you are getting what you are getting and NOT that which you want.

Here is a great way to stop resisting abundance and start shifting your focus. You will also become very aware of all the abundance currently in your life and possibly quite pleasantly surprised by this as well.

Become Abundance Focused: I have a white board in my house and every time someone gives me something, I get a good deal on something, I am given a compliment, a smile or am shown expressions of love and affection…I write it on my white board. What begins to happen is that you will become very aware of this wonderful plethora of abundance and you will begin to shift your focus to abundance by looking at and writing on this board everyday.

Some months the board is filled quickly and there is barely any room to squeeze on one more thing……on the flip side,  if I do not pay attention to my practice of “abundance focus”, my board for the month, will have big gaping white spaces just waiting to be filled….and the amount of abundance I had been feeling in my life begins to atrophy.

It is really up to you. If you focus on what you don’t want….you will get more of that guaranteed. Start today, add a sprinkle of gratitude for all that there already is in your life and watch those seeds take root. What you will begin to see is a wondrous garden of plenty begin to grow in your life and you will have opened the doors wide to allowing abundance to enter and become a new and fruitful habit born out of simple attention and awareness.

“the easiest thing you will ever have to do is change your thoughts….the hardest thing you will ever have to do is change your thoughts” James Allen

Happy gardening.

Blessings,

 

 

 

 

 

Your abundant living guide AKA: The Busy Mom Mentor

 

Soul mate….How to know if you found him/her?

Most of us have that one person in our lives who, no matter what, manages to push our buttons like no one else can.

I remember as a young girl that I wanted to find my soul mate…. I should have just stood in front of a mirror and took a good long look. That would have saved me a whole ton of time, a couple of divorces….and a lot of money.

I used to think that I needed to find someone just like me….who liked what I liked and really “got” me. First of all…I was NEVER attracted to anyone LIKE me and when I found someone remotely similar to me… I got bored of them fast. I felt like I was hopelessly doomed to be alone and LONELY.

Then finally with maturity and too many years in the school of ‘relationship’ hard knocks….I finally got it. Be with myself…be at peace with myself…find time to fall madly in love with myself and then, being full ( of myself – lol) I would have enough in the tank to have the capacity to accept those in my life as they are, without wishing they were so different or LIKE ME for heaven’s sake.

Being a busy working mom, it is important that you conserve energy. And by stopping TRYING to make someone; your kids, your spouse, your boss or coworkers change or be like you, you will do just that. If you can say to yourself….” isn’t that interesting” when a stressful situation arises and keep your ego at bay….BREATHE…then you can begin to choose a less reactive response to all situations and feel calm and peaceful most of the time.

This doesn’t happen over night…but it will happen if you practice self awareness of your behaviour and are willing to humble yourself rather than having to be right.

Try this next time you feel yourself getting hot under the collar or wanting to control a  situation….

1. Breathe.

2. Don’t say anything for 30 seconds.

3. Ask yourself “what can I do to be kind in this moment”?

4. Then respond ( or not).

OR…just watch the Video again if you haven’t already so you can understand that even if that certain someone that you chose as your soul mate drives you crazy….you can rest easy knowing that is was not a mistake. …but a gift of  transformation for you and those you encounter every day.

Liked the video? What are your thoughts? Do you believe the people who test us the most could indeed be some kind of “soulmate?”

Mona

aka the “Busy Mom Mentor”

WhenMomsHappy.com

~ Be Lazy and Create an Abundant Life ~

Your kidding right Mona?

I am guessing that this is the first thing that came to mind for you. And years ago I would have thought this too.

I remember saying once to my mom….”Please mom, let me learn the hard way…this is the only way I am going to learn is if I fail”.

Well I got it half right…..but if you have been studying Law of Attraction or just simply notice that when you are in a “good mood” how life just seems easier then keep reading….because I am going to explain to you HOW to create an abundant life ( more money, better relationships, more fun, more free time, wonderful job) by being lazy…..I am sure I have peeked your curiosity now……

So, my mom, like many parents always wanted to help me and “save me from what she thought was impending failure” from her perspective AND she used to say that to me. ” Mona, I just don’t want to see you fall flat on your face or get hurt”. I don’t know HOW many times I heard that…but I do remember the day I rebelled and told her to “LET ME FALL FLAT ON MY FACE”.

Well a couple things were at play here.

1. I heard over and over that she wanted to save me from FAILING…. so I heard…”failing” A LOT

2. I “CHOSE” failing so I could learn….and prove to her I guess that could do it on my own.

So first you need to know a little about neural pathways and how they are formed. Apparently when we are born we have NO neural pathways. They begin to form almost right away as we LEARN to get our needs met. We want attention to be fed or changed…we cry out and guess what? WE LEARN HOW to get those needs met, so over and over we do the same behaviour and VOILA we have created a neural pathway… ( fancy name for habit I think).

So you can see in the example with my mom that I heard this expectation of failure over and over….. Can you guess WHAT neural pathway was forming? YES, I created a belief in failing and did  a lot soooooo I could prove to my mom I was LEARNING myself without her help. OUCH! Wouldn’t it been a whole lot better to have someone create an expectation of success for  me? Well Yeah!

Then I made a subconscious choice to continue this failure mechanism so I could learn from it.  And to cement it I said ” Let me learn the hard way” Well the universe has to give you what you ask for ….as this is what Law of Attraction does.

Now, if you understand from my example HOW this works…then wouldn’t it make sense to create NEW beneficial neural pathways. AND these can not be created from physical efforting….but with your mind… your imagination and your feelings.

So in a way I am saying you could be lazy, sit on the couch and create the world you want ( money, love, fun, career) and this would be more powerful than TRYING HARD to make it so.

You may say to me….but Mona, I would have to do something. Yes you are right, you can not wish something into existence….but you CAN, create the blueprint in your mind, attach powerful emotion to it…..expect it and then as you are taking action ( not effort) watch as it begins to unfold in your life.

Rather than swimming upstream…..flow with the current of life and trust that ( as you have created new neural pathways, through habit and repetition) your life WILL unfold much easier than with constant force, effort and trial.

You do not have to believe this…..but I say to you…. if you feel worn out from TRYING to change your life….why not PLAY with this idea? Stay alert to the signs of what you want and at the very least start with being content with where you are….as even just with this… you will release your resistance and just like a dam….when you unstop it…the waters flow. Are you ready for your LIFE to flow….then let go. CREATE new Neural Pathways and watch as your life magically unfolds before your very eyes.

Give it a try….. you are worth it.

To Your Abundant Life,

Happy Creating

Mona McClelland

Your Abundant Life Guide

AKA the “Busy Mom Mentor”

http://WhenMomsHappy.com

Get Everything you Want ~ Do one thing

You know that saying….the definition of insanity is “doing the same thing over and over again and trying to get a different result”? Ok….if you know it then why do you do it? There is another saying…. “we are creatures of habit”. I like a structured plan, routine and habit….makes my life efficient and organized so I can get more done. BUT let’s really look at the habit……What if you want more in your life….or something different. You say you have made some changes BUT your life is still THE SAME….you are in a rut and you still would like MORE…more money, more fun, more love…..and now you just feel resigned with your lot in life!

What if you could do just ONE thing that would make everything change and bring you exactly what you want? You can and I will tell you how…..

I think you  can agree that we live in somewhat of an instant gratification society these days. Long gone seems to be the days of saving and planning….however we still seem to carry with most of us ( my demographic anyways) this “you have to work hard for what you get” mentality. So we work hard, want things instantly and keep working hard without the anticipation of the delayed gratification (which along with that would go the feeling of pride for a job well done – whether from planning or saving). So here we find ourselves and are teaching the next generation to STAY on this hamster wheel…..with only fleeting moments of temporary happiness.

So what is this one thing I am talking about and how will it help YOU get everything you want?

Well, I will give you a clue and THEN I will tell you the answer.

The clue is that is has to do with “habit” as I mentioned before….and specifically WHAT kind of habit you are letting run your life.

And the next thing that I will tell you is…. that this “magical new habit” will NOT create more effort on your part……AND in there lies the key!  EFFORT.

The habit most of our society has is effort.  The physical effort that it takes to GET what you want is what you want to focus on (actually to let go of).

No, you are not going to sit on the couch and wait for everything you want to land on your doorstep…..BUT you are going to be paying close attention to what you are thinking and feeling.

Simply put:

WHAT YOU THINK ABOUT CREATES  HOW YOU FEEL AND HOW YOU FEEL BRINGS YOU WHAT YOU ARE GETTING….and HOW you go about getting it – or not ( read this last sentence again and again until you understand it).

Ex: If you want more  money and you think about your debt….what do you feel? Do you feel abundant? Do you feel wealthy?

Now you may say to me, Mona, HOW can I feel wealthy or abundant first when I am in debt? And I would say to you…..imagine HOW you would feel in this state…..regardless of current circumstances….then feel that way AND if you just cannot….then acknowledge your state…. ( getting the money does not make your life happy…getting happy attracts the money and so much more to your life!)

Ex: “I am in so much debt right now and I don’t know how I will ever get out of it…. BUT I know that somehow, someway I will find a way and I will be free of this burden and then I will start to expect more money to flow to me easily and I will get to do and have all the things I have always wanted to do and have. “

( when you read that last sentence – does it NOT feel better than ….I am in so much debt I will never get on top of it)?

You see this world or universe is designed to give you what you want. So YOUR ONLY  job is to measure your thoughts….change them …or if you can’t change them then acknowledge them and THEN change them to what you KNOW you want. Do this over and over and over and over with everything so you can change what you are putting out there…..and what you are getting back.

If you do not believe this works then prove it for yourself.

But first I must tell you one thing….the reason I know this is HOW  you get what you are thinking and feeling IS to look at your life now…look around you….everything has come to you.. “good OR bad” because of your THOUGHT HABIT!

IF you put forth half as much effort ( = resistance or trying, trying, trying hard) and spend more time in your new THOUGHT HABIT then you WILL have more opportunities to create what you want come to you and then the action you will take  to get it will be with great EASE. Rather like going WITH the current of the river rather than paddling against the current, which is what most do.

1. So try something different…to get a different result.

2. Cultivate the image of what you want in your mind first.

3. Spend copious amounts of time imagining and feeling this. (Remember the FEELING is what pulls what you want to you – right? You can see that is what is playing out in your life right now if you pay attention ( good or bad).

4. Don’t try to TEACH this to others…share it with them…then go back to creating for yourself….as you do this others will also begin to change around you.

5. EVERYTIME  you feel a negative emotion THIS IS A SIGN THAT YOU ARE OUT OF ALIGNMENT WITH WHAT YOU WANT. Aha…now if you are paying attention you can change your THOUGHT HABIT.

6. At the very least…just let go of the efforting…the swimming against the current. This in itself will begin to help you flow in the direction of deliberate creation.

Need more help understanding all of this.

Here is someone who is a constant teacher and mentor for me.

YOU are in charge of creating everything in your life……NOW you can deliberately create WHAT you want….( think it, feel it, live it!)

Blessings,

Mona

Your abundant life guide

(aka the “Busy Mom Mentor” )

www.WhenMomsHappy.com

Do you believe in the Economy of God?

This being the season of love and hope for so many AND for many a time of sadness and despair, I would like to remind you of the abundance in this world and with the following “reflection” help you see that there IS more than enough to go around…..and there is proof!

 …….Excerpts from a Reflection by Rev Gail Miller

Don’t you love that phrase?

“The economy of God.”

Maybe you didn’t know there was one?

We certainly all know about

the economy of capitalism

or the economy of socialism.

We know about bull markets and bear markets

and the laws of supply and demand.

But the economy of God?  What is that?

 

Any economy is a structure,

a set of rules about how goods and services

pass between people and groups of people.

Yes that is a very simple definition.

But I’m a theologian not an economist

and the definition will suffice for our purposes today.

The economy of God is all about abundance.

Every parable Jesus tells

Every miracle he performs

Every action he takes contains a message

about how God relates to us, loves us

in a way that is pure, uninhibited, wildly extravagant abundance.

 

Almost all spiritual paths agree that

abundance is created by giving never by hording

- a direct challenge to the idea

that you have to save money in order to have money.

The spiritual idea is that when you give

there is more of what you have given in the world

and in the sacred mystery of divine abundance

when there is more of anything in the world

there is more of it for everyone, including yourself.

 

Sounds good doesn’t it?

Do you believe it? 

It isn’t so difficult to believe

but it is very difficult to live.

It seems there is this little contradiction

between our faith and our experience,

between our belief and our practice.

Here’s the thing.

The economy of God is intelligible

only by the logic of faith.

But most of us have been indoctrinated

into the logic of the market place.

It is a system we accept and perpetuate.

These two forms of logic contradict one another.

 

Our world seems to operate on market logic

with the basic premise being

that there isn’t enough to go around.

You have to fight for what you get.

You have to be vigilant over what you have.

If you give something away,

be it money or love or anything else,

well, then you have less than what you started with

- which is counter intuitive

because the name of this market logic game

is to get more and more and more.

Market logic – far from perceiving abundance

it actually teaches us to perceive scarcity.

Be careful, you may not have enough . . .

 

It is hard to live the way of abundance

because we aren’t used to it, and we are suspicious of it

You know the argument

If there is so much abundance why are people

living under bridges and starving to death?

That we engage in and support and live within

political and financial systems

that see us spend billions of dollars on war,

destroy entire countries for oil resources,

and throw food away by the pound

to maintain the delicate balance

of supply and demand that fuels

our economic systems while half the world starves

. . . well if that is not an attitude of scarcity

I don’t know what is.

We believe there isn’t enough to go around,

that we will lose what we have in order to give to others.

And then we use that argument as proof

that abundance is false and scarcity is real.

It is a lovely system we have created for ourselves.

The logic of the market

-  it’s a dangerous group delusion. 

 

So how do you opt out of this delusion

and still live within its system?

How do you live with the logic of faith

and trust the economy of God?

I don’ t have that answer.

I only know this.

It comes down to who you want to be. 

It comes down to who you trust.

I value my financial advisor

but I trust Jesus Christ.

 

And in today’s scripture story

Jesus give us some his wisdom about giving.

The story unfolds in a series of three movements

beginning with a wide panoramic view

of the temple courts,

then moving into a mid range view of the scribes,

and finally closing into an intimate shot

to capture just one image – a widow

walking to the treasury with her coins.

 

In among the crowd are the scribes.

They are walking among the people

dressed in long, rich flowing robes.

They are symbols of power and authority.

You remember the scribes.

They are experts in the Torah, the law.

They assisted in the many legal

and social transactions

that took place between people

and they were ultimately responsible

to ensure that the law was practiced

in such a way as to take care of

the most vulnerable in society.

 

We already know that there is no love lost

between Jesus and the scribes.

On one of those days in the temple courts

Jesus said to his disciples

Do you see that?

Watch these displays

scribes who like to walk around

in their long flowing robes,

making their way through the crowds

seeking honor and praise.

Watch how they demand respect

and sit in the best seats in the synagogue

and hold places of honor at banquets.

Watch how they accept the honor

yet deny their responsibilities. 

Listen to how they claim to serve God,

yet have no compassion and take no responsibility

for those of low rank on the social scale.

In particular he mentions widows.

Beware the scribes who devour a widow’s house,

take every last penny from her

and then for the sake of appearance

lead long winded prayers

filled with holy words at the time of worship.

It is scathing critique.

Among the many in Jesus day

who belonged to the lower classes,

a widow in particular suffered a cruel existence.

Women in general did not have any wealth. 

Their only sustenance  came from their marriage.

A woman would be in her father’s care and protection

until such time as she married,

when she would have to rely on her husband.

But what happened when her husband died?

She could not inherit any wealth from him

- that would go to male heirs, brothers or sons.

Unless she remarried – which was rare,

or went to live with her parents – if they were still alive,

or with a son –  if she happened to have one,

her circumstances were very dire

- for she lost whatever wealth she had

Poverty was a common enough affliction for many

but a widow suffered in an entirely different way

because as a woman she would

not be able to work or earn money

for that was a male privilege.

She had absolutely no way

to earn her own money

or take care of her basic needs without assistance.

She could never get back on her feet by her own wits

no matter how smart, how able, how independent.

She could not help herself at all.

She was completely dependent

on the goodwill of others for whatever she had.

That the scribes would walk around in long robes,

seeking honor and privilege

while living off the backs of poor widows

was absolutely more than Jesus could stand,

and gives some context to his words.

 

It is with this understanding

that Mark sets up the next scene.

Jesus and the disciples sit down

and they watch the long lines of people

walking into the temple,

approaching the treasury

and making their offerings.

He sees many of the richest folks

dressed in fine linens pour bags of money

into the temple treasury . . .

coins glinting in the sunlight

 

Then Jesus sees her.

One who is burdened,

A woman . . . alone . . .  no fine linen on her.

Amid the ostentation of the scribes

and the overpowering glory of the temple

comes this one,  a poor widow.

She does not approach with a bag of money,

but scraping together any dignity she might have

she takes careful steps toward the treasury.

In her hands she holds two small, dull, copper coins

together worth barely a penny

she reaches out and drops them into the treasury.

It barely makes a sound.

 

Does anyone else even notice her?

Can anyone else even guess

at the level of her generosity? 

Or are their eyes blinded

by the worthlessness of her two coins?

But Jesus sees. He sees clearly

and he is deeply moved saying

“Truly I tell you, this poor widow

has put in more than all the others. 

For all of them have contributed

from their excess,

but she out of her poverty

has put in everything she had,

all she had to live on.” 

She gave it all.

 

Is it any wonder that Jesus is so moved?

This is the last of the temple controversies.

After this Jesus is arrested for sedition

and publicly executed on the cross.

The time is very near when Jesus will,

in an incredible and paradoxical display

of abundant love

give every thing he has.

He will give himself away.

He will give his life – not out of duty, or obligation,

but out of his deep love

and great passion for humanity.

 

Of all the giving in the temple that day

the widow with but two coins to her name

is the one to watch.

Her actions show that she understands

how giving is an act of heart not of material goods. 

From the depths of her being the words rise

I have nothing to speak of, nothing of earthly value

But even this little bit that I have

I give it all, every bit of me to this hope this belief

In God and what God can make possible.

It is stunning really, when you think about it.

 

The widow and Jesus will give different things.

One her last penny, the other his very life,

but both give from the same place

 

It can be difficult for us

- ones who have so much wealth

and a fair amount of privilege and power

to hear such a passage.

Is the widow an example we are asked to imitate?

Yes. But not in the way we think.

I don’t think Jesus encourages widows

to give away their last penny.

I don’t think Jesus asks us

to give away everything we have.

 

But he does ask us to watch and to notice

not what we give but how we give it.

Because something in how we give what we give

opens up the life that Jesus talks about.

If we want to experience the life that Jesus promises.

Watch, watch the widow.

See her and her gift and her mighty heart.

It is a glimpse of God’s economy. 

 

How is it that we give?

Which economy do we trust?

Which economy do we invest in?

The real question I hear Jesus asking:

How much of myself do I really give?

When I give of my time

or my money or my heart

am I doing it fully?

Am I giving my whole self,

or just the part that happens to be available?

Am I “all in” or hedging my bet or, worse yet, bluffing?

Do I give what happens to

fall off the side of my desk,

that which I didn’t really, really need anyway

or am I offering what is my best,

that which costs me, that which is most valuable and dear to me

that which really matters to me

be it money, or time, or energy, or love, or passion.

If I gave of myself this way,

the way the widow does,

what wisdom, what way, what gift, what door would open?

How would that life Jesus promised

live in me more fully and deeply?

 

The widow is an example to imitate

but we are not asked to imitate her poverty,

rather the depth of her heart

and the fullness with which she gives it.

A gift, Jesus says, far more valuable

than ten tons of gold let alone

two copper coins worth less than a penny.

 

Jesus watched the widow that day.

And he tells us to watch.

Watch what you give

when you are with a person you love.

Is there anything that you will not offer

to your partner, your child,

your parent where there is love,

trust and commitment between you?

Watch what you give when you are working

toward a goal that you love.

Is there any time or money or skill

that you hold back when your dream is within your grasp?

There is no calculation in in this kind of love. 

No estimate of income tax benefits to be gained.

No pride in giving large amounts of cash or time or skill.

When you are in love with God,

when you deeply trust that God is in love with you,

then it doesn’t matter if all you have to offer is two cents.

What matters is giving what you have to give

And doing it with the whole of yourself

Invested, available, willing, passionate

And giving to something beyond your own self,

Your own need you own life.

Watch that one, Jesus says,

Watch the one with the mighty heart.

 

We can choose to resist the logic of the market

that scares us into second guessing

the call to generosity.

We can choose to step more deeply

into the economy of God

and the blessings it brings.

Trusting the economy of God.

I tried that once, pushed on that promise

pushed on it hard enough to know

in my heart of hearts it is true

this whole divine economy of abundance.

PROOF

 

A number of years ago

at a time of pretty big financial struggle for my family

I was trying to find a way to live another reality

I read Deepak Chopra’s book

The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success

There were seven laws of course

But the one that really caught my curiosity

Was this one.

Give something to everyone you meet. 

And this was the exercise that went with it.

Absolutely everyone you encounter

for one entire day

give them something,

give whatever you have to give, just GIVE.

Don’t fret, don’t calculate, don’t make judgments

about what you give or how much you give.

Just give whatever you can in the moment.

It might be money,

it might be a kind word, a good thought,

a prayer, a moment’s compassion – whatever.

 

So one day, this is what I did . . . and let me just admit

I was highly suspicious and doubtful

But I did it anyway.

I started the day with five DOLLARS

I kept giving them away

and at the end of the day I had six dollars!

I’d give away a DOLLAR,

then I’d find a DOLLAR on the sidewalk three blocks later.

I’d give a DOLLAR to a homeless person

then find a DOLLAR  in my car.

I gave a guy four DOLLARS to buy a parking ticket.

He found me in the movie theater later

and gave me a five dollar bill.

I was like “really . . . are you kidding me?”

I spent all day giving away what I had

and at the end of the day I had more

than what I had at the beginning of my giving.

It was ridiculous  . . .  and amazing.

So I know it’s true.

It was just one of those days

when you can’t argue.

I mean what are the chances that

would just be a coincidence.

 

I know it is true

but I struggle to find the courage to really live into it.

I mean I didn’t go out the next day and repeat

the same exercise using $100 bills.

But I kept giving every day

And here is what I learned.

I learned that five bucks given

might not result in five bucks received,

but five somethings would come my way.

 

I learned that in divine abundance

all things are not equal

but all things are in balance

and not everything we receive

can be converted to currency

but everything has its own unique richness.

 

The economy of God – isn’t an obvious economy. 

It is not like you give away $10,000

and the next day the express post

arrives from heaven with your original $10,000

plus divine interest.

If it was that way,

we wouldn’t be having this conversation.

It surely is a more subtle economy

with blessing arriving in all kinds of ways

- some very unexpected.

It is not the way of the world market

but it is the way of God.

The economy of God –

and a mighty heart

Now there is an equation that

can change the way we give

and change the way we live.

May it be so. Amen.

 

*Thanks to Rev. Ed Searcy for his reflections on this passage.

Mona McClelland

Read More of Mona’s Abundance Blog Here

By Your Words…You Have the Power

We are powerful beyond measure...but so many people do not want to take the time to HEAR their own words and are then shocked to see what has unfolded in their lives.

No, you do not have to monitor your every word…BUT you may want to make it a point to speak the words of your desire and ONLY of your desire and then look again  to see  what may magically appear before your very eyes…..

How do I attract or repel abundance with my words you might ask….?

Here is how……

(…. the following is an excerpt from the Book the Game of Life and How to Play it…by Florence Scovel Shinn)

**Ms. Scovel Shinn frequently refers in her teaching to messages that were written in the scripture and  taught by Jesus. Regardless of your faith – I encourage you to read the deeper meaning of the message as a Spiritual Truth or Universal Law**

 

“By your words ye are justified and by your words ye are condemned.”

Many people have brought disaster into their lives through idle words.

For example: A woman once asked me why her life was now one of poverty of limitation?

Formerly she had a home, was surrounded by beautiful things and had often tired of the management of her home, and had said repeatedly, “I’m sick and tired of things – I wish I lived in a trunk,” and she added: “Today I am living in that trunk.” She had spoken herself into a trunk. The subconscious mind has no sense of humor and people often joke themselves into unhappy experiences.

For example: A woman who had a great deal of money, joked continually about “getting ready for the poorhouse.”

In a few years she was almost destitute, having impressed the subconscious mind with a picture of lack and limitation.

Fortunately the law works both ways, and a situation of lack may be changed to one of plenty.

For example: A woman came to me one hot summer’s day for a “treatment” for prosperity. She was worn out, dejected and discouraged. She said she possessed just eight dollars in the world. I said, “Good, we’ll bless the eight dollars and multiply them as Jesus multiplied the loaves and fishes,” for He taught that every man had the power to bless and to multiply, to heal and to prosper.

She said, “What shall I do next?”

 I replied, “Follow intuition. Have you a ‘hunch’ to do anything, or to go anywhere?” Intuition means, intuition, or to be taught from within. It is man’s unerring guide, and I will deal more fully with its laws in a following chapter.

The woman replied: “I don’t know – I seem to have a ‘hunch’ to go home; I’ve just enough money for carfare.” Her home was in a distant city and was one of lack and limitation, and the reasoning mind (or intellect) would have said: “Stay in New York and get work and make some money.” I replied, “Then go home – never violate a hunch.” I spoke the following words for her: Infinite Spirit open the way for great abundance for –. She is an irresistible magnet for all that belongs to her by divine right.” I told her to repeat it continually also. She left for home immediately. In calling on a woman one day, she linked up with an old friend of her family.

Through this friend, she received thousands of dollars in a most miraculous way. She has said to me often, “Tell people about the woman who came to you with eight dollars and a hunch.”

There is always plenty on man’s pathway; but it can only be brought into manifestation through desire, faith or the spoken word. Jesus brought out clearly that man must make the first move.

by Florence Scovel Shinn

 

Mona McClelland

the Busy Mom Mentor and Abundance Coach

www.WhenMomsHappy.com/life

5 Secrets to an Abundant Life:

On the wall in BIG letters of Dr Phillips office a sign reads “the ISness is the Business”

When I truly take the time to subscribe to this simple but profound philosophy, I can clearly see HOW abundant my life IS now. Like most people, I am constantly growing and learning how to achieve more in my life…..but the funny thing is the busier my life gets…the less I seem to get done and I cannot see the forest for the trees so to speak. This I find Ironic.

When I create more in my life I am ALWAYS doing less. No, that does not mean I am sitting on a park bench waiting for my life to happen….it means I have paid attention to my vision, created some action steps and I am living in faith that my emotional guidance system will take me intuitively in the direction I need to go next to get to where I want to go.

BUT there are some very simple and powerful secrets that I use along the way to attract more and more abundance into my life. Would you like to know what they are?

My 5 Secrets for (attracting) an abundant life.

1.Slow down
When I graduated from high school I remember feeling already behind the eight ball …It seemed there was so much to do and so little time to do it ( I was 17 ). And from this feeling of anxiety and ignorance I began my journey into “the real world” without a plan….going two steps forward and one back most of the time.
There are many things in life that will demand attention and distract you from your path. We also complicate our lives further checking in several times a day to some piece of technology to see what everyone else is doing out there in cyberspace. It just seems that we all fill in any spare moment with anything so as to NOT waste time. Rush, rush, rush…that seems to be the modus operandi today.
If you can slow down, you will become more relaxed. When you are more relaxed you are able to “hear” what it is that YOU need to do next to CREATE the abundance you want in your life. Creative ideas only come at a time when you are relaxed and not when you are stressed….( or surfing facebook again – for Pete’s sake!)

2. Let go of worry
A situation is what it is whether you worry about it or not. It is the worry itself that creates the stress in your body which in turn creates more stress and worry! I get that it is hard to not worry about our kids, finances and the unknown future. AND I think it is important to acknowledge this state of mind when it happens…..because suppressing it causes a whole other string of events and chemical reactions in the body. I like to say… “it has to come up to come out”. So, while it might not be possible to stop the “thought attacks” it is very possible to stop, focus on your senses ( what you see, feel, hear etc) in the moment to bring you back down to earth. When you mind is full of anxiety you are STOPPING abundance from helping you find opportunity and real solutions.

3. The ISness is the Business

Your wondrously creative mind is only able to do one thing at a time. (although you may think differently) Living abundantly means to be free to BE and respond calmly in the moment. So, when you are spontaneous you are able to make things happen seemingly effortlessly. Whatever it IS you are doing….do it fully present and allow yourself to attract abundance in to your world fearlessly (and see how free you feel – CAUTION- this can become addictive …Woo hoo).

4. Stop multi tasking

This is one thing that most women are famous for…..and the more things you can do at once the more you will get done…right? WRONG. You will get trapped in the busyness and just create MORE work and busy-ness. Then you are trapped on the proverbial hamster wheel of life….Spinning dizzily into despair. The emotional wear and tear ranges from nervousness, anxiety to overwhelm and stress. It is simply absurd to think that it is productive to do multiple things in one given moment.
You suffocate your ability to attract any abundance by taxing the creative mind to splice its focus towards too many tasks at one time. The simple truth is that you can only do one thing at one time. Being focused AND fully present in the moment, you will create and attract what you want quickly and with ease.

5. Get grounded in nature

Just look outside at the natural abundance of Nature. There is a simple ease to its creation. Seeds blow in the wind, take root and grow. Everything necessary is provided (wind, sun, water) there is no need to struggle. If you are ever “beside yourself” taxed…nothing is going right in your day…..get outside….barefoot in the grass if possible (hug a tree – no joke). Your energy will be grounded immediately – rooted back into the earth. You will breathe and reconnect with your spirit. Abundance is all around you. You are the vessel that makes it come to you or repel from you.

Ps…..and one other thing STOP scheduling so much in your day…I promise you will get it all done….bite sized pieces….there will always be more to do.

Mona McClelland
the “Busy Mom Mentor”
WhenMomsHappy.com

The Ultimate Time Out ~ for Busy Working Moms

What can I say…..Back To School IS the Ultimate Time OUT for most busy working moms!

This is the time that routines are established and as the leaves turn red and gold a different kind of bus-y-ness occurs. I call this “controlled” chaos. Yes you are busy again trying to cram in all the new activities and old ones but it is also a time for renewal….much more so in my opinion than January 1st.

So here are a few tips for you to get your self ready for ”the Ultimate Time Out”. If you plan and prepare for YOUR needs as the school season begins …you are much more likely to continue taking care of yourself right through the onset of the New Year.

 

1. Get the kids to bed Start now…. if the kids have been up WAY past their bedtime throughout the summer then start at least one week prior to the first day of school and gradually get them into bed 15 min earlier each night until you are at the “regular” school night bedtime. Guess What? This means you can re-establish your bedtime routine and enjoy quiet time (out) that is necessary for your self renewal .

2. Pay attention to what you are eating

As the seasons change…so do your bodies. The plethora of fresh fruits that you enjoy through the warm summer months…are also packed with sugar (a stimulant)…albeit Mother Nature sugar…still as the season turns cooler the natural desire for more warming foods will become more welcomed.Both you and your kids will feel better when you begin again to eat three good meals a day. Make time to do the planning together. And then if it works in your kitchen allow them to help…this is great bonding time for you and your kids and can be YOUR time together…thus spending less time with them at bedtime and creating more time for YOU.

3. Move YOUR Body

Do something – anything.  Plan time twice a week to share exercise with your kids. Otherwise start now to plan the classes and the time (out) just for you to take care of yourself. If you eliminate one thing every week from your schedule that does not serve your highest good (being vibrant and healthy)  then you WILL find the time to move your body in a way that is fun and invigorating for you.

4. Put your best face forward

“To look good …is to feel good , Dahling”  Treat yourself to a NEW look, get a great haircut. Find a affordable outfits that you will love to wear. Smile….you can not hold a negative thought and smile. Keep smiling…. the negative thought will atrophy and you will look good, feel good …you will smile more.

5.Laugh 

For one month….only watch shows/movies that make you laugh. You’ll automatically feel better. Stay away from negative news (magazines,papers and radio). Find the humour in everyday situations

6. Gratitude 

Every night at bedtime, take two minutes to count your blessings. Make a gratitude list. Write it down and then every night look at it and add to it often.  Help your kids create one  too.

7. Don’t be a Martyr

You don’t have to do it all alone. Ask for help from family, friends, co-workers, and organizations for help.  People love to be needed, including your kids …as long as you are not “using” them, reach out ask for what you need….and when the time comes you can reciprocate ( good role modeling for the kids and another way to feel good and take a time out for YOU).

8. Pray/Meditate/Breathe

Every single day….to round off the ULTIMATE time out ….spend time to connect with YOUR God. Whatever that is for you: Nature, music, church, sitting by the ocean, yoga…. Do something that makes you feel whole. ( if this is new to you, start with once a week and increase the frequency)….It will become a place to come home…to yourself …everyday that you won’t want to miss. (…and it will help you tremendously with the controlled chaos of your “new” year… starting right now.)

….One more thing …..you are NOT a supermom and your kids are not “superkids”  lower your expectations of yourself and your kids and YOU will find that YOU will create an ULTIMATE time out habit  that will stand the test of time. YOUR Time!

….and of course, Remember……“When Moms Happy…Everyone’s Happy”
Mona McClelland
the “Busy Mom Mentor”

ps….if you found this helpful and know of someone else who would benefit too, please pass it along…they WILL thank you.

pps….if you know that there is something “else” that you are meant to do in this world…besides being a mom AND need a little help making that happen. I am here to help and support you. In  30 minutes Discover exactly WHAT to do NEXT ~ even if you are tired, lazy,in a bad mood most of the time AND have no goals!

~ A Real Christmas Miracle ~

When I recall precious Christmas memories, I think of a very special story, one which represents the magic and glory of the season. This is a true story, as told to me by my husband — a professional Santa Claus — of a real Christmas miracle which he experienced. A story that I think will cause YOU to believe …
Three years ago, a little boy and his grandmother came to see my Santa at Mayfair Mall in Wisconsin. The child climbed up on his lap, holding a picture of a little girl.

“Who is this?” asked Santa, smiling. “Your friend? Your sister?”

“Yes, Santa,” he replied. “My sister, Sarah, who is very sick,” he said sadly. Santa glanced over at the grandmother who was waiting nearby, and saw her dabbing her eyes with a tissue.

“She wanted to come with me to see you, oh, so very much, Santa!” the child exclaimed. “She misses you,” he added softly.

Santa tried to be cheerful and encouraged a smile to the boy’s face, asking him what he wanted Santa to bring him for Christmas. When they finished their visit, the Grandmother came over to help the child off his lap, and started to say something to Santa, but halted.

“What is it?” Santa asked warmly.

“Well, I know it’s really too much to ask you, Santa, but ….” the old woman began, shooing her grandson over to one of Santa’s elves to collect the little gift which Santa gave all his young visitors. “The girl in the photograph … my granddaughter … well, you see … she has leukemia and isn’t expected to make it even through the holidays,” she said through tear-filled eyes. “Is there any way, Santa … any possible way that you could come see Sarah? That’s all she’s asked for, for Christmas, is to see Santa.”

Santa blinked and swallowed hard and told the woman to leave information with his elves as to where Sarah was, and he would see what he could do.

Santa thought of little else the rest of that afternoon. He knew what he had to do. “What if it were MY child lying in that hospital bed, dying,” he thought with a sinking heart, “this is the least I can do.”

When Santa finished visiting with all the boys and girls that evening, he retrieved from his helper the name of the hospital where Sarah was staying. He asked the assistant location manager how to get to Children’s Hospital. “Why?” Rick asked, with a puzzled look on his face. Santa relayed to him the conversation with Sarah’s grandmother earlier that day. “C’mon …. I’ll take you there,” Rick said softly.

Rick drove them to the hospital and came inside with Santa. They found out which room Sarah was in. A pale Rick said he would wait out in the hall.

Santa quietly peeked into the room through the half-closed door and saw little Sarah on the bed. The room was full of what appeared to be her family; there was the Grandmother and the girl’s brother he had met earlier that day. A woman whom he guessed was Sarah’s mother stood by the bed, gently pushing Sarah’s thin hair off her forehead. And another woman who he discovered later was Sarah’s aunt, sat in a chair near the bed with a weary, sad look on her face. They were talking quietly, and Santa could sense the warmth and closeness of the family, and their love and concern for Sarah.

Taking a deep breath, and forcing a smile on his face, Santa entered the room, bellowing a hearty, “Ho, ho, ho!”

“Santa!” shrieked little Sarah weakly, as she tried to escape her bed to run to him, IV tubes intact.

Santa rushed to her side and gave her a warm hug. A child the tender age of his own son — 9 years old — gazed up at him with wonder and excitement. Her skin was pale and her short tresses bore telltale bald patches from the effects of chemotherapy. But all he saw when he looked at her was a pair of huge, blue eyes.

His heart melted, and he had to force himself to choke back tears. Though his eyes were riveted upon Sarah’s face, he could hear the gasps and quiet sobbing of the women in the room. As he and Sarah began talking, the family crept quietly to the bedside one by one, squeezing Santa’s shoulder or his hand gratefully, whispering “thank you” as they gazed sincerely at him with shining eyes.

Santa and Sarah talked and talked, and she told him excitedly all the toys she wanted for Christmas, assuring him she’d been a very good girl that year. As their time together dwindled, Santa felt led in his spirit to pray for Sarah, and asked for permission from the girl’s mother. She nodded in agreement and the entire family circled around Sarah’s bed, holding hands.

Santa looked intensely at Sarah and asked her if she believed in angels. “Oh, yes, Santa … I do!” she exclaimed.

“Well, I’m going to ask that angels watch over you,” he said.

Laying one hand on the child’s head, Santa closed his eyes and prayed. He asked that God touch little Sarah, and heal her body from this disease. He asked that angels minister to her, watch and keep her. And when he finished praying, still with eyes closed, he started singing softly, “Silent Night, Holy Night … all is calm, all is bright.” The family joined in, still holding hands, smiling at Sarah, and crying tears of hope, tears of joy for this moment, as Sarah beamed at them all.

When the song ended, Santa sat on the side of the bed again and held Sarah’s frail, small hands in his own. “Now, Sarah,” he said authoritatively, “you have a job to do, and that is to concentrate on getting well. I want you to have fun playing with your friends this summer, and I expect to see you at my house at Mayfair Mall this time next year!”

He knew it was risky proclaiming that, to this little girl who had terminal cancer, but he had to. He had to give her the greatest gift he could — not dolls or games or toys — but the gift of HOPE.

“Yes, Santa!” Sarah exclaimed, her eyes bright. He leaned down and kissed her on the forehead and left the room.

Out in the hall, the minute Santa’s eyes met Rick’s, a look passed between them and they wept unashamed. Sarah’s mother and grandmother slipped out of the room quickly and rushed to Santa’s side to thank him. “My only child is the same age as Sarah,” he explained quietly. “This is the least I could do.” They nodded with understanding and hugged him.

One year later, Santa Mark was again back on the set in Milwaukee for his six-week, seasonal job which he so loves to do. Several weeks went by and then one day a child came up to sit on his lap. “Hi, Santa! Remember me?!”

“Of course, I do,” Santa proclaimed (as he always does), smiling down at her. After all, the secret to being a *good* Santa is to always make each child feel as if they are the only child in the world at that moment.

“You came to see me in the hospital last year!”

Santa’s jaw dropped. Tears immediately sprang in his eyes, and he grabbed this little miracle and held her to his chest. “Sarah!” he exclaimed. He scarcely recognized her, for her hair was long and silky and her cheeks were rosy — much different from the little girl he had visited just a year before.

He looked over and saw Sarah’s mother and grandmother in the sidelines smiling and waving and wiping their eyes.

That was the best Christmas ever for Santa Claus. He had witnessed — and been blessed to be instrumental in bringing about — this miracle of hope.

This precious little child was healed. Cancer-free. Alive and well. He silently looked up to Heaven and humbly whispered,

“Thank you, Father. ‘Tis a very, Merry Christmas!” Mark R Leonard aka “Santa”

By Susan Leonard

Avoid Burn Out: Four Overlooked Traits

Mom Out of Order

It’s not easy to avoid burn out as a mom. While we understand how moms get burned out, it is ridiculously hard to admit it. Sometimes we don’t admit it because it seems doing so would signal “weakness”, or worse, “incapability” of doing our job that every other mom is doing with her eyes closed.

But every mom is different.

You are different.

Let’s face it: some moms can handle 18 kids, some find 8 enough, others are really happy with one or two. But as sure as the grocery shopping will need to be done in 2 days, every mom will need to learn how to avoid burn out for herself. What matters most is recognizing it (because everyone around us has recognized it for 3 days or more).

While your burn out capacity may rarely get filled, here are four tell tale signs that you are overdue for something (anything) that refreshes you.

Anger
A shortened fuse lit by demands, constraints, and life, will eventually go off. When burned out, moms tend to run harder, not wiser, thus pressing ahead usually with force and dragging everyone along with them. The more burned out, the more angry some moms get.

No Fun
Being burned out removes extra energy. Fun takes energy and creativity and a sense of childlikeness. When we’re burned out the last thing we have is extra energy for anything – let alone hosting a camping night out for the kids.

Apathetic
Apathy is described by one mom as “I just don’t care. I don’t care if supper isn’t ready, or if someone can’t find their homework.” When apathy sets in because we don’t avoid burn out, it’s a mom’s way of saying “I’m overloaded and can no longer respond”. It’s burn out to the extreme because on a “normal” day or week, most moms care about everything.

Extra Screen Time
Sometimes being overwhelmed can drive a mom to hibernate behind a “guilt-free” acceptable place to be – glued to the computer or TV. But when it becomes a habit and takes time away from attention to family or routines, burn out is usually a root cause.

Now What?
Once we identify the problem, it’s important to begin a remedy. That remedy is unique to each mom. Generally, the answer to avoid burn out starts with the question, “What would help right now?”

When we identify our need to find time for ourselves and regroup, the anger levels begin to ease. When we create space for ourselves to breathe, we start to bounce back. When we honor our limitations, and recognize where we are on the burn out scale, we can begin to make choices to care for ourselves. When we care for ourselves, we then begin to take exceptional care of others even more than before. It’s the most selfless thing we could do for ourselves – and for our family.
©2011 Compliments of  The Mom Whisperer

Mona McClelland

Professional Life and Health Coach

‘the Busy Mom Mentor ‘