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~ Don’t Stop – Success IS right around the Corner ~

“When you have worked hard, take the time to appreciate what you have done. Do not always look at the distance that you have yet to travel. ” Unknown

What happens when the enthusiasm dies off …… and you still do not see the results you were expecting? Maybe you are building a business…..spear heading a project or a committee and it seems that everything you had hoped for is NEVER going to be realized. This has most definitely got to be one of the most annoying and frustrating things that can happen to even the best laid plans. You have been working at something for a long time, but NOW you realize there’s still a ways to go before you’re going to get where you ultimately want to be.

What if it has been months or years even and you are still trying to get things to fall into place exactly how you envisioned?

Maybe you’ve been:

Following step by step instructions to create an online business. Or

Plodding away for what feels like an eternity looking for that perfect job. Or,

While Working on that never ending project and every time you think you’re almost done, you find more and more things that still need to be completed. Or,

Being very focused on creating big improvements in specific areas of your life, but it feels like you are simply spinning your wheels.

It can be so discouraging to think that what once seemed easy to tackle, or a quick fix solution, has turned out to be a complete ball and chain with only an inkling of belief remaining that you can actually accomplish what you first set out to do.

But there is light at the end of this tunnel……

What I mean by that is you really only have two choices. One: Quit and start something else…completely understandable…renewed enthusiasm…renewed life …Woo hoo! or Two: Keep pushing through the funk and re-energize your vision of the end result and go for the success you believe you will still achieve. ( a little prayer to the big guy or the universe for guidance wouldn’t hurt either – as long as you listen for the answer…that is).

It is very easy to quit …to give up…..but the reality is… you will just start again…something else and in time you will come to this place …this crossroad again. It is a personal milestone that every great achiever has had to cross. Pull up your boot straps…refocus and go again and again …for as long as it takes…until you are ready to RECEIVE success….. YES, it has to do with you being ready to receive it. AND the road is the test…the teacher.

….And why on earth would you want to quit anyways? You’ve come this far, You’ve invested so much time and effort. Quitting at this point would be absolutely crazy. But the reality is… it is here… this point ….where disbelief sets in …..where most people do quit. BUT that WON”T be you will it? …..It’s just not in your chemistry.

HOW TO GET THROUGH THIS FUNK…..

If you really want this , then you’ve got to re-commit and push through.The reality is you are much closer to the end than you realize. You just can’t see it is all. It is like that story that Jack Canfield told in the movie …”the Secret” “If you are driving in the dark, from L.A. to New York… you can only see 200 feet in front of you…but if you keep going the next two hundred feet and the next…even though you can not see where you are going…. you will arrive at your destination….just keep going that next 200 feet”

Here is a great quote to hit home what I am trying to convey.

“Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.” – Thomas Edison

What is most important is that you NOW tap into your belief that you will succeed. Don’t waste worrying about all you have left to do. Everything you have done so far has landed you here. NOW it’s time to build on all the progress you’ve made get to the finish line.

1. Re-Focus on what is already working! Challenge MISS Negative Nellie or Ned in your mind by remembering everything that is working and all the steps you have already taken.

2. Remind Yourself about your initial excitement. Remember WHY you started this project or down this path. Then remind yourself of what is waiting at the finish line and how great YOU will feel when you succeed. This is so important…in fact this must become a daily habit – 5 minutes of focusing on this feeling – at least 3 times a day. Get your body to feel this success and success will come and meet you where you stand because you will simply attract it!

3.Create a new plan. Map out from where you are now and 30 days out and then commit to doing something every single day to make this happen. The more frequent the steps you can take every single day, the sooner you WILL see and reach the finish line.

It is all up to you…no one else…another favourite saying of mine “the BUCK stops here”..WITH YOU!

Mona McClelland

Abundant Living Guide

aka the “Busy Mom Mentor”

Certified Life and Professional Health Coach

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The Fitness Code

What is the Fitness Code?Well in honor of “March is Vibrant Mom Month”I thought I would summarize what equals a life lived in balance and harmony. I believe that everyone’s purpose here, living this life, is JOY. That’s it…. Living Joyfully is your purpose….good to know right?

And if you are not living in Joy…then you ARE out of alignment with your purpose and the pain you are feeling is simply your habitual resistance to change. Meaning you are holding ON to something ( a job, relationship, attitude, belief, habit) that does NOT serve you.

AND to make matters worse you are digging in your heels….banging your head against the wall…swimming against the current to HOLD on to this way of being…of living…for FEAR of not knowing what will happen if you let (it) go!

So what is the Fitness Code?

Keep Reading…….

I worked with this amazing coachonce that must have felt like banging his head against the wall with me…. I was in a very tough situation that I had to change to move forward in my life…..and week after week….. I kept telling him all the reasons that I could not. This lack of decision and action was hell for me…BUT I kept choosing to mull it over and over and talk about it over and over and still do nothing. Talk about a definition of insanity. (ever done this?)He told me something that made such a strong impact on me….that today I live by it and I base my decision on it.

I call this the Fitness Code.….would you like to try it on for size? Lets get started!1. F stands for Fiscal Fitness….. if you can not move forward in your life because you feel TRAPPED by your bleak financial situation….you have to do something about it. Get your head out of the sand ….look at it and act.
I started using a method taught to millions by Harv Eker and with a few tweaks of my own I call it “the Money Habit” …but know that FIRST if you are in a “debt” situation that you must take care of that first…. you can not create wealth…while feeling burdened by debt…find someone to help you create a debt settlement or repayment program and then focus on creating a better fiscal future with the Money Habit. Listen to the Money Habit here

2. E stands for Emotional Fitness …..if you are someone who feels emotionally defeated often….then you may have a little bit of work to do. There is a pattern or an underlying theme that makes you feel that you are responsible for the outcome of a situation ( or you are in menopause…lol…but really this can stir your life up dramatically). When you are emotionally challenged…..your self confidence is weak. You do not believe in yourself and it is hard to set goals and accomplish your desires. Join the “rubber band ” club. I did this to help my youngest daughter and along the way it helped me immensely. Put an elastic band on your arm and every time a situation comes up to challenge you emotionally..snap it and affirm something like ” I am ok…I am strong…I can feel it to heal it and then move on.” This is cognitive behaviour therapy at its simplest.Don’t knock it until you try it.

3. M stands for Mental Fitness ….. here is where you can really have some fun AND I could go on and on for pages about this…BUT simply put, YOU are in charge of your thoughts and what you feed yourself mentally. Do you want to know what you are thinking most of the time? Just look at your life…it will be a direct reflection of your thoughts. That can be a tough pill to swallow. Want more fun in your life…are you thinking ‘fun thoughts’? Want more love in your life…’ are you thinking and acting loving’? Want more money in your life…’are you thinking about all the debt you are in’?
I think you get the picture. Here it is again in a nutshell. 1. Thoughts become feelings. 2. Feelings create your TYPE of action ( or inaction) 3. Action creates results. OR THOUGHTS BECOME THINGS.
Start paying full attention to your thoughts….PLAY with this and see what happens!

4. P stands for Physical Fitness ….. I think this one is quite obvious. If you are not moving your body….you will not feel energized. NO you do not have to go to the gym if you DISLIKE that sort of thing. But, the good news is there are a TON of other things you can do. Can’t get out or have a physical limitation? Search YouTube….I used to spend tons of time and money going to Hot Yoga classes. Now my classes stream to me through the internet on my time and I spend the money doing other fun things. Check it out. Just type in whatever you like in the YouTube search bar and I guarantee something will come back that you can do. Or just get outside for a walk every day.

5. S stands for Spiritual Fitness ….. In my humble opinion this rates right up there with Physical Fitness as a priority for wellness and a vibrant life. If you do not believe or wish to spend time in prayer or meditation…find out what makes your heart sing and then spend time fully engrossed and focused on that.Personally, I love prayer and silence. In my prayer I do the blessing and inquiring and in silence I wait for the answers. This is when you hear your higher self, intuition or God speak to you. In this busy world don’t you deserve to find peace…peace on your terms? Give yourself this gift. Start with 5 minutes a day….ask a question and then just sit..stare out the window and breathe. The more you practice this …the more it WORKS.AND this is a valuable part of the “creating your life deliberately” puzzle.

Now for those of you who may be struggling with relationships …here is what was once told to me. ” Love = when to people resonate in harmony …mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually”. One caveat….. YOU CAN NOT CHANGE ANYONE ELSE….do this for yourself. Practice the your FITNESS CODE and see ..like magic ..what/who aligns with you!

Commit to adding one component of the Fitness Code into your life daily and watch your life transform right before your very eyes.

…and how do we know the importance of this Mom?

….because “When Moms Happy..Everyone’s Happy”

Blessings,

Mona

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~ the Buck Stops Here ~

“Stop Expecting People to show up the way you want them to and allow them to show up as they are, and stop holding people hostage for what you they should or shouldn’t have done” Iyanla Vanzant

I couldn’t have said this better myself!

What happens when we fall in love, develop a core friendship, have children, parents etc…..is we see them through the lens of our perceptions and the stories of OUR lives. After the “fairy” dust settles and the child grows, time passes in a friendship and the spouse becomes “comfortable”….what is there?

This is a question that has crossed the minds ( either consciously or not) of every man, woman and parent living on this planet earth.

What gives us ANY right to think that someone else is responsible for our happiness?

Well I am not a psychologist…..but it all seems to point back to our childhood. What happens when we get hurt and what goes on at birthday and holiday time? We are born and begin living watching people please us …we soon find out that the way TO GET WHAT WE WANT is ….to please and expect to be pleased by others. So we DO BE and ACT in a certain way…that is then expected of us ( and we expect it back from others)

What a complete recipe for sadness and despair, anger and jealousy not to mention some resentment thrown in there too.

So what can we do about this? I don’t think anyone, anytime soon is going to stop giving their newborns and growing children love/affection with hopes to please them….but at some point we ALL need to see that true happiness/pleasure is our very own personal responsibility AND that any other gestures of pleasing from others is an added bonus.

AND something else very cool happens, when we ensure our OWN personal happiness….we have MORE to give others and then the feelings are naturally boomeranged right back to us…….WONDERFUL.

How are some ways you can be responsible for your own happiness?

1. Write down everything that makes you unhappy and then look for/do/be the opposite of everything on that list.

2. Keep an abundance journal or board AND every day make note of everything positive/free/abundant that comes to you. ( and if you focus on this MORE with naturally come ( almost magically).

3. Focus on ways to give. This does not have to cost money OR take much time….perhaps a flower, a smile, a compliment. “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you” . THE BONUS – you will FEEL GREAT!

4. Work at a job you LOVE or do your job and find a hobby that you look forward to spending time on.

5. Say I love you and show it to those you care for as much as you can. (If they say ‘enough already – I know you love me’ then you will know you are giving out lots of love.)

6. Do something that YOU LOVE- FOR YOU everyday ( again – does not have to cost money or much time).

……..I encourage you to take this short list and run with it….start with what is here and make it super long…..and specific to you.

YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR HAPPINESS. To quote Andy Andrews from the “Traveler’s Gift” ...the buck stops here!

Mona McClelland

Professional Life and Health Coach

the “Busy Mom Mentor”

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~ What is an Empowered Woman anyways? ~

This post was inspired by my beautiful 21 year old daughter who is navigating her way, on HER journey in this world.

This week she called me from Montreal, where she is going to University, to tell me that she really needed someone to talk to.

By the time we spoke she had spoken to another friend of hers and was feeling much better but the issue at hand, although with more clarity at this point, was still gnawing at her.

She started by saying to me that her recently uprooted living situation had really got the best of her and that she thought she should sign up for some ‘assertiveness training classes’ to help empower her in the future.

Okay, I know you are a busy professional working mom, wondering what a story about a 21 year University student has to do with YOU? Everything….keep reading!

Now in my 5th decade of life I look back at all the things I was NEVER taught and am so very excited that my daughters (and I think most children these days) are learning HOW to be assertive….to NOT accept bullying, and to cultivate and LIVE their passions from such a very young age. AND where would I be today if I had learned these things in my 20s?

As I listened to my daughter talk about her conundrum……I had a great amount of empathy. It would not be any fun ….if after 2 months of selecting the ‘right’ place to live and then 2 months living there (after moving across the country) that you have to uproot and move again. Then of course deliberating on the new “right place to be” with the “right” roommates…..and having someone else squeak in and scoop THAT one too.

Here is what I told her:

First that what she was having to deal with SUCKED….big time.

And that if taking an assertiveness training would make her feel more empowered then go for it.

BUT what I thought she really needed to hear was this……

SHE WAS ALREADY EMPOWERED.……and it was because of the following 5 steps that she intuitively took:

1. She took stock of her situation and made a DECISION of what was best for her ( she had to leave the present living situation – it was a drag – but living with others more suited to her demographic would be better).

2. She set a timeline……(after midterms – again taking care of HER needs).

3. She took action and found 2 places that were suitable.

4. Support……When she felt overwhelmed or confused she reached out for help.

5. She was in touch with her emotions. Lets face it ladies…in this world we are still taught that being and showing emotions ( negative ones ) is unacceptable and YES uncomfortable. BUT they are called E-Motions for a reason….feel them ……and let them MOVE through you and out. Otherwise they WILL get stuck in your body and cause all sorts of BIGGER DISCOMFORT later.

I told her that she is one of the most empowered women I know and that is takes more courage to reach out and be vulnerable about a situation than act like an ISLAND thinking you can do it ALL by yourself.

So now that you know what a truly EMPOWERED woman is and what she does to be that way. I bet YOU can look in the mirror and see one looking right back at you.

Take care of yourself first ladies….because if you don’t…..everyone else depending on you will either walk all over you OR they won’t have YOU to depend on for long. A BURNT-OUT mom is no good to anyone.

My offer still stands….. I get that it is hard to reach out for help. But now that you know ( or are reminded) that it is a sign of STRENGTH not weakness …...you can ask for help too.

Discover now what is missing in your life……it is my honour to be there with you and hold your hand as you do! (even if you are depressed, tired, lazy and/or have no goals).

Blessings,

Mona

the”Busy Mom Mentor”

….and remember “When Moms Happy, Everyone’s Happy”

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Play with kids – make money

If you are reading this post, I am almost sure it is because of the subject title AND I know that you are more than a little bit curious about HOW you might play with your kids and make money.

Well we both know there are several ways that you could do that, just type in google and ask “how to play with kids and make money”….but what I am talking about is HOW you can structure your busy life, work, family, spouse, finances and self care and make money too (whether it be your dream job, work from home or figuring out HOW to make your “hobby” support your desired lifestyle.)

AND the irony of it all, is in the years I have been coaching, the one thing that will stop MOST women dead in their tracks, is having an idea and then getting STUCK on the HOW. Believe me, sister, ALL you need is the WHAT (the inspired idea), hold on to it, and the HOW will present itself. …And right now you are probably saying ” oh really……HOW”?

Today I am simply going to share with you 5 steps…Tips, I guess, but if you really do these 5 steps you will create a strong foundation to start manifesting DELIBERATELY your ideal EVERYTHING.

There is nothing different about me….from any of you. Not too long ago I was a confused, messed up, depressed, single mom. One day I decided to take stock of what gifts I already had to offer the world, what my strengths were, then I decided to ‘get help’ …I hired a coach….and from there got clear on what/who I wanted in my life. Oh Yah…I hit some roadblocks…BUT those roadblocks were GOLD, they showed me what was stopping me from stepping up and out ( even though at times I was as nervous as Bambi standing for the first time on new wobbly legs) But guess what….I got stronger….and YOU will too!

Ok…ready to make some changes in your world?

Remember I had no special talents or advantages. Anyone can do this stuff–including YOU.

1. Get Clear on Your Purpose

Remember I said all you needed to figure out is the WHAT you want…the inspiration for your life? Want to make your dreams come true? Clarifying this purpose is the one most important thing you must do

Having a crystal clear…focused understanding of WHAT you truly want to do or give the world allows you to make decisions quick and easy. It keeps you on track with your goal markers. It helps you avoid getting side tracked and making mistakes. And it brings you back quickly to a simple quick-reference point for staying the course, (when challenges occur).

What you truly desire must be relevant to you. Why? Because it’s the compass for your LIFE. Why should you get that new job, start a new business, lose 25 pounds? Don’t hang out with Dream Stealers (or give them ANY of your precious time).Know that it’s okay to like WHAT you like and to pursue your own path!

2. Follow a Plan

If you want to do three errands and still get to the school in time to pick up your kids…. you plan out the quickest and most efficient route right? This way you can get it all done and be on time. Oh sure you can just hop in the car and hope you get it all done BUT if you follow your simple plan you won’t waste any time, can just follow the plan and get the tasks completed effectively.

Keep your ability to become distracted by creating a check list and follow your plan. Keep your weaknesses in check–by following a plan.

There is really a very simple way to chart any goal IF you use two strategies: Creating a deadline and being accountable.

Deadlines force you to get serious complete your tasks, and show you clearly when you are NOT staying true to your plan. Firm deadlines help to eliminate excuses, and stop you from getting caught up in BUSY- ness that has nothing to do with your desired result.

And that’s where accountability comes in. You need some way to keep yourself on track. For me “the coach” helped a ton…and the fact that I laid some money on the line too. You know it is not that you are purposely going to lie to yourself but the memory is fallible, and it’s easy to imagine you’re getting more accomplished more than you really think you are, just because you’re “working on it.” Oh boy, am I ever good at falling into that one. A system of accountability gives you a way to track your progress.

Use these tools and you can accomplish any task you set for yourself.

3. Houseclean Your Life

Oh yah… I can hear you groan…NO MORE housecleaning…puullease! But this type of housecleaning will GIVE you energy and space to receive what you have set out to get.

First – get rid of the people who are pulling you down and taking you away from your dreams….

OUCH – harsh right…okay you do not have to disown anyone. BUT really limit your time with these well intentioned “loved ones” who tell you that you cannot do what you WANT to do. They think they are keeping you from getting hurt or failing. Well guess what? They are not you…it is not their life…Thank them and carry on with YOUR dreams. (These would be the dream stealers I mentioned earlier). Also keep your distance from nagging, complaining, energy drainers….people AND violent drama on TV and in the news,

Make better choices of what and who you want to share your environment with. AND guess what …when you change yourself and are true to yourself…they won’t come around you anymore AND you will not enjoy sources of “negative” entertainment that you once allowed to seep into your being….

Other housecleaning to do?….Yep, get rid of clutter, tie up loose ends, get a debt repayment program going, so you can focus on building wealth and abundance. “GET YOUR HOUSE IN ORDER”…make room for the new. “YOUR HOUSE” is your environment….as you clean it….WHAT you now want will be able to find a space to call home.

Know also that in choosing to do one thing, you’re also choosing not to do an awful lot of other things. Commit to people, actions or things only when they’re in line with Item 1 on this list–WHAT YOU WANT – for your life – your purpose.

4. Embrace Responsibility for Your Life

Oh I have been the biggest victim of circumstance in my life….OMG… but I had to let go of all that stuff…SO what!! ..”The past is the past for a reason – ITS OVER” Sounds harsh doesn’t it…yes I know….I remember finally waking up to this fact and I think for a while I became more of a victim “nobody understood me”. BUT the LOVING truth is you aren’t a victim of your childhood or your past or your circumstances–unless you choose to be. There are no excuses.

When I realized the “buck” stopped here…. I had to stop making excuses and I stopped waiting for others to help me. Instead, I started changing my life AND I sought out an invested in me AND the kind of help and resources I needed.

It didn’t always feel easy and some days I can still slide a little backwards (my latest EXCUSE…menopause – ha ha). I assure you, it DOES get easier when you get clear about your purpose and you embrace it with fierce desire. When you’re driven by that purpose of what you really want in your life and when every action you take is aligned with it, it’s easy to stay on track and receive every goal or marker you set for yourself.

5. Focus on Direct Action

Start taking Action. Lay out the first step ( if you do not know the step after that …that is okay..It will reveal itself) But, don’t let that stop you. TAKE the first step fearlessly and watch what unfolds by taking direct action puts YOU in the driver’s seat and in control of your destiny. If you are not taking charge, then you are handing someone else control of your life.

I get that there are people there to take into consideration. Your spouse, perhaps, your kids too, but I am sure that you get that there is a difference between finding your dream and taking steps to make it happen and asking permission. You are a grown, powerful, vibrant woman with so much to give the world and when you step out and take action, not only will YOU benefit but of course so will those you love.

So as you can see here, there is no magic potion or spell. The things we want do not instantly manifest on our front lawns on a whim. You just have to step out and take them. All it requires is desire, strategy, some hard work (which moms are already familiar with) and the determination to see it through.

These 5 steps worked for me, and they’ll work for you too. Embrace them and you’ll be well on your way to creating the life you’ve always dreamed of.

Mona

the “Busy Mom Mentor”

ps if you are at all like I was …reach out and get some help digging for that gold inside you to help you remember what it is that you were once so passionate about.

In 30 min I can help you see clearly what it is you TRULY WANT to make happen in your life EVEN if you have forgotten, given up and are in a very bad mood about your life everyday!
Check out what’s brewing deep down inside you with my 30 minute rapid coaching discovery session NOW

pps If you know of any other mom who would benefit from this information, I thank you, in advance for passing it on!

Namaste

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What a waste of Energy

You can not control others………. Intellectually that makes perfect sense right? Then why is it that you keep trying?

There is a difference between trying to control or change others AND having your needs met.

The first is YOU trying to make those around you behave in a way that works for YOU in your life.

The latter is YOU asking speaking out, communicating what you need ( and most of those needs can be met by you!)

Even really simple things can drive you crazy like, having the toothpaste tube squeezed in the middle instead of having it rolled up from the bottom, a new roll of TP put on instead of just leaving the empty cardboard tube and even driving yourself crazy because your kid did not do what you asked him/her for the 100th time. ARGHHH!

Well, just think about all the stress you are causing yourself and all the energy you are wasting by getting yourself so worked up inside. But what are you to do about it……how can YOU control them or get THEM to change (so YOU can feel better)? Wow, I am just tired trying to follow that train of thought.

Well, here are two things you can do right away:

1. Tell the person HOW you FEEL about it and ASK them if they can agree to do this for you or at least meet you half way. (now I know with kids it takes a little longer – BUT believe me, even with kids it is “human nature” to follow through with doing the task or request IF you give them your reason.) Has it ever worked to just “want” to do what you are told ( maybe only for fear of repercussions?) AND all the complaining in the world will NOT work…it will just make others turn a deaf ear or not want to be around you.

2. Take a deep breath , ask yourself HOW truly important this is to you….can you relax and just let it go ( and if not WHY not?). Then let it go….It may still bother you, but if you can do this time and time again, before you know it, the more calm you are and things are getting done AND your calm energy will move around you and throughout your environment. Others will love being around you AND things WILL get done.

Lets face it …it is truly the small little things that build up that interfere with YOUR own peace of mind…..WHY are you letting that happen to you? Yes, YOU, are letting that happen to you and maybe even hindering some very loving relationships where that energy could be used for nurturing instead dismantling.

And if you really still feel you can not let go of the need to CONTROL……well how about funneling that energy to areas of your life and focus on things that are really in your control. YOU WILL feel better! I guarantee it! ( but remember the key is to do these things – shift your focus – the mind can only hold one thought or focus at a time!)

Right now YOU are in charge of:

1. Your level of honesty.
2. How many times you smile today.
3. How often you say “thank you.”
4. What you spend your money on.

5. How you act on your feelings
6. Whether or not you give someone the benefit of the doubt.
7. Whether you listen or wait to talk.
8. When you walk away from a conversation.
9. The type of food you eat.
10. How much time you spend worrying.

11. How much exercise you get.
12. How many times you swear at others in traffic.
13. How often you think about your past.
14. How many negative articles you read or news you listen to.
15. The loving attention you give to your spouse & kids when you see them.

16. How much you enjoy your kids right now.
17. Whether or not you communicate something that’s on your mind.
18. How you interpret situations.
19. How often you notice & appreciate small acts of kindness-they’re everywhere!

20. How deeply you breathe when you experience stress.
21. How many times you say “I love you.”

Food for thought isn’t it?

Just think of all the extra energy you will have when you stop trying to control and manage others and just manage yourself? Ahhh Bliss……

Can’t seem to STOP doing what is bringing you what you DON”T want in your life?

Maybe I can help you….Well in fact I KNOW I can help you.

Sometimes doesn’t it feel good to get an objective point of view…..One that can help you “see the forest for the trees” of should I say ” feel seen, heard and valued in YOUR world”?…Stop complaining - start attracting what you really want…give that all your attention, energy and focus.

You want more love….give more love (but not to someone if they are abusing you), want more money, clean up your debt and start focusing on wealth and abundance, want more time….simplify your life and focus on what YOU TRULY WANT. STOP COMPLAINING about what you don’t want…cause guess what YOU WILL JUST GET MORE OF THAT.

Don’t know what you want ? In 30 minutes with me ……YOU WILL KNOW.

Time to Discover what you Want to HAVE in your life. This is your movie…time to step into YOUR starring role!

….or you can just continue to get what you are getting now. CHOOSE something NEW TODAY.

…….and Remember “When Moms Happy….Everyone’s Happy”

Mona

the “Busy Mom Mentor”

ps. if this messages today has helped you, even in the smallest of ways, please pass it on to others who are waiting to be inspired to create what they truly want in their lives.

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Is Sugar making your body Toxic

Is Sugar making Your Body Toxic ?

Here is a Video that will show you how sugar not only causes heart disease and diabetes, but also feeds tumors and causes them to grow, plus is as addictive as Cocaine to your brain……( making you crave more and more and ……..)

Everyone needs to watch this video from a recent episode of 60 Minutes. I don’t think most people understand just how harmful sugar is to your health OR the seriousness of this epidemic. Most people blindly eat and drink loads of sugar each day, unbeknownst to most of them. (Americans consume an incredible 1/3 lb of sugar per DAY on average). How is this internally affecting your body and your biochemistry?

Please share this page with all of your family and friends so they can be empowered to deeply, positively affect their health, well being and longevity.

What I believe is that food manufacturers want you to be addicted to sugar and continue to buy their junk food and sugar laden products which will destroy your health.

It really should be no surprise to anyone today that excess sugar consumption contributes to obesity, type 2 diabetes, heart disease, and cancer.

Your argument might be that some natural sugars have always been a part of the human diet, and why would this be an issue? Yes, we have always eaten small amount from fruit ( in season )….this was a part of our ancestral diet. But for the first time in history we are exposed to massive quantities of ADDED sugars. Just look at an average street corner in any city in America ( usually at least two shops of the four corners are selling, flavored coffees, muffins, cakes, cookies, sweets, sweets, and more sweets. AND sugar is hiding in most of the condiments, dressings and tomatoes sauces to boot!

The average American eats a gross 130 lbs of sugar per person per year, or 1/3 lb per day! Personally I think this is just blatant disrespect for the body….or ignorance. WAKE UP…..make some changes NOW.

Did you also see in the video how in one controlled study, they replaced 25% of the daily calories of the subjects with sugary drinks, then took blood tests every 30 minutes around the clock? These tests showed that by replacing 25% of their daily calories with sugary drinks, the subjects increased their dangerous small dense LDL particles in their blood which causes arterial plaque and heart disease. Soooo….. sugar and carbs contribute more to hurting our hearts than fats do.

And did you also catch the bit about how sugar feeds tumors and can make cancer worse? Yikes!

Finally, some evidence by the medical community that proves what I was taught over 20 years ago ( and-FYI, it was really hard for me to change back then )….SUGAR is bad stuff.

If you must have something sweet…..check the studies about honey and some other natural sweeteners…. in small amounts they are not anywhere near as bad for you as the “white stuff”( remember the white stuff is processed)….stay away from HGFS and when you indulge try a piece of 85 % dark chocolate OR Raw chocolate….YUM ( not the whole bar…just a square.)

There are so many other great foods to eat and with the internet now, a plethora, an infinite number of recipes are just waiting to tantalize the taste buds. Save the sweets for special occasions……feast on those days ( not everyday!)

Please take just a moment right now and as I mentioned at the start of this message…share this with everyone you know and love!

To a Long, Healthy and Vibrant Life

Mona McClelland

Professional Health & Certified Life Coach

Author of “the Visible Blueprint” 7 steps to more Time, Money and Love

aka the “Busy Mom Mentor” www.WhenMomsHappy.com

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Do you need more money?

My experience in working with my clients has proved to me over and over again that you want more in your life…..and in over 90% of the cases, what you want most is, more time, more MONEY and more love.

So today we are going to talk about Money: why you don’t have it, why it is never enough and how to get more of it.

First of all you must understand that money is just energy. What do I mean by that? Well…if money is just sitting on a table, minding its own business….it is static….it does nothing. BUT the energy YOU give money by your thoughts, beliefs and perspective determines how easily money flows to you or or AVOIDS you.

Here is what I mean by that.

Money is attracted to order. So, Is your home in order? Your car? Your relationships? Your body? Your mind?

As you decide to find a way to create more money in your life or move into your next money level, you must do some preparation !

It’s impossible to BE the same and HAVE different. If you want your life to ULTIMATELY change, YOU must ultimately change who you are, how you think and feel about money, who/what you are connected to and what you are doing.

Friendships may need to come to an end. (yes, some friendships simply limit your ability to grow in many areas including finances)

Closets may need some cleaning out. (remember money likes order)

Your body may need to go on a cleanse. (renew and rejuvenate your body and mind)

Believe me, the more you release from your life that no longer serves you, the QUICKER you will create your new financial level.

You must ruthlessly separate all poverty and beliefs about poverty (regardless of your current circumstances) to attract more money. This is what I mean when I talk about poverty – I mean low-level frequency, toxic, stagnant – people, places, activities, thoughts & things!!!!

Here is an easy assignment you can do – write down any “poverty” in your life and make a choice to let it go. Then also write down what you will replace it with.

Examples:

Low frequency (poverty): Messy Closet – just can’t let go of something that you have worn for YEARS …just in case you might wear it one more time??? ( I know I used to do this one) – get rid of it!

Action : De-clutter Closet

High-frequency (prosperity) - only bring into your closet that which you need or want. Only what you enjoy wearing… what makes you feel good.

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Low frequency (poverty): Friend with the “glass half full” mentality. You can still love this friend…but radically limit the amount of time you spend with her.

Action : When you are with her, immediately stop her when she begins her complaining again. ( Simply interrupt her and then ask ” So, ______, What do you want?”. This question will not only stop her in her tracks…but it will get her to start thinking of a solution. If she continues to bring you down to her level….you may have to stop keeping company with her

High-frequency (prosperity) : Find a group of people who are like minded. Join a in-person or online group or coaching program that will take you to the places and the mindset that creates the changes you want to see in your world.

….Remember….it all starts with your Vision….have you created your Life Script yet?

If not…here is where you start.

And remember…When Moms Happy ….Everyone’s Happy”!

Mona McClelland
“the Busy Mom Mentor”

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5 Ways you give away your Power

What are you thinking…don’t give away your power….OH…you don’t know that you are doing this….read on…..

1. Asking others what YOU should do: Oh I know it is great to chat with your friends, people you respect, to get their opinion. BUT I encourage you to go inside and ask what you should do. Stop, be quiet and then listen. Especially if what you are deliberating on is particularly important to you. This way you will be in touch with what you “feel” you should do – not what you “think” you should do. The mind is meant for solving equations and figuring out puzzles…not for telling you what is BEST for you…that decision comes from your heart and only YOU know what your heart is telling you to do!

2. Worrying about HOW your dream will come true: This is assuming you know your dream and that you have crafted your vision and you are taking steps to bring it to fruition. THE WORRY only stops or delays the desired outcome. YOUR job is to take the steps ……the HOW will be revealed along the way. It is kind of like driving across the country at night time. You know when you get in the car in the dark you can only see about 200 feet in front of you…BUT if you follow the markings and signs on the road along the way YOU WILL get to your desired destination. The same is true with your dream. WORRY just creates a big detour or a flat tire and stops you in your tracks.

3.Being attached to UNIMPORTANT details and outcomes: You have never done this have you? What a waste of energy. So what if you forgot something at the market on the way home from work….dinner will still be fine…..and if one of your kids sleeps in and is late for school/work …oh well….and if all the creases are not out of the shirt you meant to wear to work today and you just noticed it going out the door….life goes on. Just BREATHE!

4. Waiting for all your ducks to line up before acting. This is a very common situation. Say you want a specific outcome in your life. Maybe you want a promotion at work…..but you don’t think you are completely qualified. What if you apply anyways? …. You just may get it and THEN you can learn what you need to know to become competent in the new position. BUT, again you wait until ‘the perfect time’…or the perfect posting before you act…..and then sometimes it never comes and you are still RIGHT WHERE YOU ARE. Take the leap of faith…you can always course correct as you go along.

5. Choosing to be unhappy: You are probably saying that you do not “choose” to be unhappy but circumstances in your life are causing you to be unhappy. Maybe things are not perfect. Maybe you don’t love your job, or you have too much debt, or life seems too busy, the kids are driving you crazy…all of this and more is MAKING YOU unhappy.
Sorry sista, I am here to tell you, you are choosing to feel that way about all of it. Yes, I get that none of those circumstances are fun and that they are at the forefront of your life BUT what if, just what if you start looking at some of the other circumstances in your life that may counterbalance ( or out weigh ) the “BAD stuff”?
Lets see…What if every day one or more of your family members gives you a big hug or tells you they love you? What if a client expresses his gratitude for your help? What if you go outside and stand in nature and revel at it consistent beauty? What if someone who you ordered your Latte from smiles at you and says “have a nice day”?
These things may seem small in comparison to the “BIG” problems of your life…but string a bunch of these things together consistently with your conscious awareness AND then you will be choosing happiness and magically your life will begin to change for the better.

You can choose to BE a lighthouse in the storm ( of life) or you can choose to be a tumbleweed. Stand strong as the winds blow around you OR be blown around by the winds will!

Want help choosing to take back your life……
In 30 minutes you will learn exactly what it is you need to do to take that first step back to YOU and your dreams (do you remember what they were?)

Click here and make that choice today.

And remember …..When Moms Happy….Everyone’s Happy

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Your Worst Enemy

I can not emphasize enough HOW important it is for YOU, mom, to take care of yourself!

In this busy world you are so good at doing so many things that everyone around you EXPECTS you to simply keep doing these things. Then one day you are wiped out or sick and you cannot. YOU are our own worst enemy. YOU have set up that expectation with everyone….including your spouse, boss and children.

What if…just what if you put yourself on the top of that list and set up some expectations of yourself FOR yourself?

Match everything you do for others with what you could do for yourself.
Example: You drive your kids to all sorts of activities…music lessons, gymnastics, school events…WHAT could you be driving yourself to once a week to nourish your interests?

OR you buy food and make meals that you know your family will enjoy….do you do this for yourself? Do you put anything on that grocery list just for you?

I am going to give you an assignment this week AND if you want to send your results to me for accountability I would LOVE it to hear what you did for YOU.

In the next 7 days make your self a list (using the clarity through consciousness method).

Remember you know what you DON’T want and this is the best clue to showing you what you do want. So take a piece of paper lengthwise and draw a line down the middle. On the left you write everything you don’t want about the topic you have selected. In this case the topic is ‘what do I love to do for myself’?’ So this exercise should be easy AND insightful…IF YOU DO IT.

Ex: on the left you might write: I don’t like being so busy I have no time for a walk ( in nature, by the beach etc), or I don’t like being so busy that I don’t read my book every night. So the opposites of these are : I want to go for a walk in nature EVERY week, I want to read in my book every night, I want help making lunches etc.

You can not change that which you are not conscious of …….GET CONSCIOUS…. then take the steps to change things. Create a new set of expectations for yourself, your boss and for your family.

STOP being your own worst enemy and start being YOUR OWN BEST FRIEND. How you treat yourself IS how others will treat you. How do you want to be treated?

Let me know HOW your life changes.

Mona McClelland
the “Busy Mom Mentor”

* if you find this information helpful PLEASE share it with other busy working moms that you know it would help to take back their lives and begin sharing their gifts with the world!

….And REMEMBER ”When Moms Happy – Everyone’s Happy”

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