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How to ALLOW Abundance into your life now

So you have been studying the Laws of the Universe have you?

Especially the Law of Attraction  – LOA as most people refer to it. If you haven’t, that is okay too… I will give you a refresher.

LOA is a LAW...not something I have made up…it is a LAW of the universe that  just happens…and is happening all the time whether you believe it is or not. Just like the law of gravity…doesn’t matter if it is you or the Queen of England…if you step of a high building the LAW of gravity will bring you down.

So the LOA is happening every moment….. Now and now and now and now. It’s only has one job and that is to check and match your vibration. SO if you are grumpy …it is checking and matching and bringing you more of that scenario. If you are happy and positive ….it is checking and matching and bringing you more of that. The good news is that LOA had no memory banks and YOU get to change your vibration as many times as you change your mind to attract what you want. Do you want to know HOW to get more of what you want and less of what you don’t?  Keep reading!

This is my last abundance message until September for this year. In the summer I manifest, time with my children, playing in the summer sun all while working with my clients and if you would like to attract more abundance this year I suggest you email me or call me up and make that a priority.

I know you are saying… I don’t have the time, I don’t have the money AND you are right…what ever you say it true…because you believe it and until you decide to believe something different, you can read all the abundance blogs in the world…BUT still you will not attract what you want because of ONE thing…. You are NOT allowing it!

That does not mean you ramp up the affirmations, place more sticky note reminders around your house or hope and pray more than ever that you get what you want. You see doing these things just reinforces what is NOT happening and then you get more of that..WHAT is not happening!

There is an art to getting a positive match from the Universe and deliberately creating an abundant life. It is called ALLOWING.

1. First you need to know what it is you want…like going into  a restaurant, the waiter can not bring you want you want until you decide and ask. AND then what you want comes and you enjoy the result ( hunger satiated).

2. You need to give what you want attention, energy and focus. Stay in the vibration of WHAT you want and stay away from people, places and other situations that would bring your vibration (positive feeling) down and take away your focus of getting what you want.

3. The third step is to ALLOW it to come. What do I mean? Well if you have complete doubt ….absolutely NO Faith that what you want will come ..then remember what I said before? You are right…It won’t come and then you get to affirm, “See, this stuff doesn’t work”.

If you have never been able to get or achieve what it is that you do want then you might continue to believe that you can not. BUT you can begin to believe by affirming that you are now in the process of getting that which you want and you can get excited by that…then you can even look for social proof of others getting what you want and saying ” I’ll have what they are having”.

More good news is that you do not have to completely wipe out the doubt to deliberately create, you only have to reduce the doubt. The less doubt you have the faster what you want will appear.

That’s it…. Too simple? Then why are you not doing it already? Seems to me people just want to hang on to why they can not get what they want and then buy into, what they call, their reality they have created with all their doubts and complaining.

Remember LOA is working now and now and now …whether you like it or not…..you are the creator…why not learn to create what you really want deliberately?

A great how to book for making your WANTS into your REALITY is  HERE …grab it now and start living your most abundant life now.

How to apply the Law of Attraction so you get more of what you do want and less of what you don’t!

Your Abundant Life Guide ( AKA the “Busy Mom Mentor“)

 

 

 

 

HAPPY SUMMER  2013!!!

~ What you DON’T want will bring you EVERYTHING you DO Want ~

Did you know that to get everything you want, the key is to know what you don’t want?

Ahhh…how can this be you maybe thinking?

Well it is simple and it IS the key to getting EVERYTHING you want.

I and many of my clients are living proof and when I found out HOW to do this one simple thing, every time I do it….. what I want rushes to me. It is like magic.

Now that  I have peaked your curiosity…….I won’t keep you waiting.

I use a process that I call “Clarity through Consciousness”. An elaborate name for a simple process.

What I have found is prevalent in the human condition is that we seem to know and focus on what we don’t want. When it comes to relationship, business/career, finances, love…..we have a laundry list of what we don’t want to have or have happen…. AND THIS IS EXCITING!

….and here’s why.

When you identify what it is that you DON’T want the exact opposite is the reveal. This now is what you DO WANT.

Whoo Hoo!!

Here is an example. Grab a piece of paper and draw a line vertically through the middle. On the left side at the top, label this column “WHAT I DON’T WANT”  on the right side column, name it “WHAT I DO WANT”.

Then pick a category, in your life, that you want to focus on manifesting a positive outcome…let’s stay a better job.

On the don’t want column you may write:

  • long work hours
  • low wages
  • cranky boss
  • negative co-workers
  • long commute
  • etc etc ….make the list of Don’t wants LONG

Then on the other side ( the  I do want column) write the opposite.

  • 7 hour work days
  • 25.00 per hour
  • an upbeat employer
  • team players
  • short commute from home
  • …and keep going till you get it all scripted out

THEN cross out the DON’T WANTS  and focus on the DO WANTS.

That’s it….but remember to spend time daily and envision the DO WANTS as being here now and how you feel about it. If you create it in your mind – you will see it in your world!!

ps…..this is how I found the love of my life….. and he jokes now and tells folks he is a product of a “list”…..my friend’s hubby is too, so we have lots of fun with that. This is the same process we used to find the house we live in now. This is powerful and it works.

Don’t take my word for it ….give it a try and then let me know exactly what an abundant life you are now creating!

Blessing,

 

 

 

 

 

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~ Don’t Stop – Success IS right around the Corner ~

“When you have worked hard, take the time to appreciate what you have done. Do not always look at the distance that you have yet to travel. ” Unknown

What happens when the enthusiasm dies off …… and you still do not see the results you were expecting? Maybe you are building a business…..spear heading a project or a committee and it seems that everything you had hoped for is NEVER going to be realized. This has most definitely got to be one of the  most annoying and frustrating things that can happen to even the best laid plans. You have been working at something for a long time, but NOW you realize there’s still a ways to go before you’re going to get where you ultimately want to be.

What if it has been months or years even and you are still trying to get things to fall into place exactly how you envisioned?

Maybe you’ve been:

Following step by step instructions to create an online business. Or

Plodding away for what feels like an eternity looking for that perfect job. Or,

While Working on that never ending project and every time you think you’re almost done, you find more and more things that still need to be completed. Or, 

Being very focused on creating big improvements in specific areas of  your life, but it feels like you are simply spinning your wheels.

It can be so discouraging to think that what once seemed easy to tackle, or a quick fix solution, has turned out to be a complete ball and chain with only an inkling of belief remaining that you can actually accomplish what you first set out to do.

But there is light at the end of this tunnel……

What I mean by that is you really only have two choices. One: Quit and start something else…completely understandable…renewed enthusiasm…renewed life …Woo hoo! or Two: Keep pushing through the funk and re-energize your vision of the end result and go for the success  you believe you will still achieve. ( a little prayer to the big guy or the universe for guidance wouldn’t hurt either – as long as you listen for the answer…that is).

It is very easy to quit …to give up…..but the reality is… you will just start again…something else and in time you will come to this place …this crossroad again. It is a personal milestone that every great achiever has had to cross. Pull up your boot straps…refocus and go again and again …for as long as it takes…until you are ready to RECEIVE success….. YES, it has to do with you being ready to receive it.  AND the road is the test…the teacher.

….And why  on earth would you want to quit anyways? You’ve come this far, You’ve invested so much time and effort. Quitting at this point would be absolutely crazy. But the reality is… it is here… this point ….where disbelief sets in …..where most people do quit. BUT that WON”T be you will it? …..It’s just not in your chemistry.

HOW TO GET THROUGH THIS FUNK…..

If you really want this , then you’ve got to re-commit and push through.The reality is you are much closer to the end than you realize. You just can’t see it is all. It is like that story that Jack Canfield told in the movie …”the Secret”  “If you are driving in the dark, from L.A. to New York… you can only see 200 feet in front of you…but if you keep going the next two hundred feet and the next…even though you can not see where you are going…. you will arrive at your destination….just keep going that next 200 feet”

Here is a great quote to hit home what I am trying to convey.

“Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.” – Thomas Edison

What is most important is that you NOW tap into your belief that you will succeed. Don’t waste worrying about all you have left to do. Everything you have done so far has landed you here. NOW it’s time to build on all the progress you’ve made get to the finish line.

1. Re-Focus on what is already working! Challenge MISS Negative Nellie or Ned in your mind by remembering everything that is working and all the steps you have already taken.

2. Remind Yourself about your initial excitement. Remember WHY you started this project or down this path. Then remind yourself of what is waiting at the finish line and how great YOU will feel when you succeed. This is so important…in fact this must become a daily habit – 5 minutes of focusing on this feeling – at least 3 times a day. Get your body to feel this success and success will come and meet you where you stand because you will simply attract it!

3.Create a new plan.  Map out  from where you are now and 30 days out and then commit to doing something every single day to make this happen. The more frequent the steps you can take every single day, the sooner you WILL see and reach the finish line.

It is all up to you…no one else…another favourite saying of mine “the BUCK stops here”..WITH YOU!

Mona McClelland

Abundant Living Guide

aka the “Busy Mom Mentor”

Certified Life and Professional Health Coach

The Fitness Code

What is the Fitness Code?Well in honor of “March is Vibrant Mom Month”I thought I would summarize what equals a life lived in balance and harmony. I believe that everyone’s purpose here, living this life, is JOY. That’s it…. Living Joyfully is your purpose….good to know right?

And if you are not living in Joy…then you ARE out of alignment with your purpose and the pain you are feeling is simply your habitual resistance to change. Meaning you are holding ON to something ( a job, relationship, attitude, belief, habit) that does NOT serve you.

AND to make matters worse you are digging in your heels….banging your head against the wall…swimming against the current to HOLD on to this way of being…of living…for FEAR of not knowing what will happen if you let (it) go!

So what is the Fitness Code?

Keep Reading…….

 

I worked with this amazing coachonce that must have felt like banging his head against the wall with me…. I was in a very tough situation that I had to change to move forward in my life…..and week after week….. I kept telling him all the reasons that I could not. This lack of decision and action was hell for me…BUT I kept choosing to mull it over and over and talk about it over and over and still do nothing. Talk about a definition of insanity. (ever done this?)He told me something that made such a strong impact on me….that today I live by it and I base my decision on it.

I call this the  Fitness Code.….would you like to try it on for size? Lets get started!1. F stands for Fiscal Fitness….. if you can not move forward in your life because you feel TRAPPED by your bleak financial situation….you have to do something about it. Get your head out of the sand ….look at it and act.
I started using a method taught to millions by Harv Eker  and with a few tweaks of my own I call it “the Money Habit” …but know that FIRST if you are in a “debt” situation that you must take care of that first…. you can  not create wealth…while feeling burdened by debt…find someone to help you create a debt settlement or repayment program and then focus on creating a better fiscal future with the Money Habit. Listen to the Money Habit here

2. E stands for Emotional Fitness …..if you  are someone who feels emotionally defeated often….then you may have a little bit of work to do. There is a pattern or an underlying theme that makes you feel that you are responsible for the outcome of a situation ( or you are in menopause…lol…but really this can stir your life up dramatically). When you are emotionally challenged…..your self confidence is weak. You do not believe in yourself and it is hard to set goals and accomplish your desires. Join the “rubber band ” club. I did this to help my youngest daughter and along the way it helped me immensely. Put an elastic band on your arm and every time a situation comes up to challenge you emotionally..snap it and affirm something like ” I am ok…I am strong…I can feel it to heal it and then move on.” This is cognitive behaviour therapy at its simplest.Don’t knock it until you try it.

3. M stands for Mental Fitness ….. here is where you can really have some fun AND I could go on and on for pages about this…BUT simply put, YOU are in charge of your thoughts and what you feed yourself mentally. Do you want to know what you are thinking most of the time? Just look at your life…it will be a direct reflection of your thoughts. That can be a tough pill to swallow. Want more fun in your life…are you thinking ‘fun thoughts’? Want more love in your life…’ are you thinking and acting loving’? Want more money in your life…’are you thinking about all the debt you are in’?
I think you get the picture.  Here it is again in a nutshell. 1. Thoughts become feelings. 2. Feelings create your TYPE of action ( or inaction) 3. Action creates results. OR THOUGHTS BECOME THINGS.
Start paying full attention to your thoughts….PLAY with this and see what happens!

4. P stands for Physical Fitness ….. I think this one is quite obvious. If you are not moving your body….you will not feel energized. NO you do not have to go to the gym if you DISLIKE that sort of thing. But, the good  news is there are a TON of other things you can do. Can’t get out or have a physical limitation? Search YouTube….I used to spend tons of time and money going to Hot Yoga classes. Now my classes stream to me through the internet on my time and I spend the money doing other fun things. Check it out. Just type in whatever you like in the YouTube search bar and I guarantee something will come back that  you can do. Or just get outside for a walk every day.

5. S stands for Spiritual Fitness ….. In my humble opinion this rates right up there with Physical Fitness as a priority for wellness and  a vibrant life. If you do  not believe or wish to spend time in prayer  or meditation…find out what makes your heart sing and then spend time fully engrossed and focused on that.Personally, I love prayer and silence. In my prayer I do the blessing and inquiring and in silence I wait for the answers. This is when you hear your higher self, intuition or God speak to you. In this busy world don’t you deserve to find peace…peace on your terms? Give yourself this gift. Start with 5 minutes a day….ask a question and then just sit..stare out the window and breathe. The more you practice this …the more it WORKS.AND this is a valuable part of the “creating your life deliberately” puzzle.

Now for those of you who may be struggling with relationships …here is what was once told to me. ” Love = when to people resonate in harmony …mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually”. One caveat….. YOU CAN NOT CHANGE ANYONE ELSE….do this for yourself. Practice the your FITNESS CODE and see ..like magic ..what/who aligns with you!

Commit to adding one component of the Fitness Code into your life daily and watch your life transform right before your very eyes.

…and how do we know the importance of this Mom?

….because “When Moms Happy..Everyone’s Happy”

Blessings,

Mona

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~ the Buck Stops Here ~

“Stop Expecting People to show up the way you want them to and allow them to show up as they are, and stop holding people hostage for what you they should or shouldn’t have done”  Iyanla Vanzant

I couldn’t have said this better myself!

What happens when we fall in love, develop a core friendship, have children, parents etc…..is we see them through the lens of our perceptions and the stories of OUR lives. After the “fairy” dust settles and the child grows, time passes in a friendship and the spouse becomes “comfortable”….what is there?

This is a question that has crossed the minds ( either consciously or not) of every man, woman and parent living on this planet earth.

What gives us ANY right to think that someone else is responsible for our happiness?

Well I am not a psychologist…..but it all seems to point back to our childhood. What happens when we get hurt and what goes on at birthday and holiday time? We are born and begin living watching people please us …we soon find out that the way TO GET WHAT WE WANT is ….to please and expect to be pleased by others. So we DO BE and ACT in a certain way…that is then expected of us ( and we expect it back from others)

What a complete recipe for sadness and despair, anger and jealousy not to mention some resentment thrown in there too.

So what can we do about this? I don’t think anyone, anytime soon is going to stop giving their newborns and growing children love/affection with hopes to please them….but at some point we ALL need to see that true happiness/pleasure is our very own personal responsibility AND that any other gestures of pleasing from others is an added bonus.

AND something else very cool happens, when we ensure our OWN personal happiness….we have MORE to give others and then the feelings are naturally boomeranged right back to us…….WONDERFUL.

How are some ways you can be responsible for your own happiness?

1. Write down everything that makes you unhappy and then look for/do/be the opposite of everything on that list.

2. Keep an abundance journal or board AND every day make note of everything positive/free/abundant that comes to you. ( and if you focus on this MORE with naturally come ( almost magically).

3. Focus on ways to give. This does not have to cost money OR take much time….perhaps a flower, a smile, a compliment. “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you” . THE BONUS – you will FEEL GREAT!

4. Work at a job you LOVE or do your job and find a hobby that you look forward to spending time on.

5. Say I love you and show it to those you care for as much as you can. (If they say ‘enough already – I know you love me’ then you will know you are giving out lots of love.)

6. Do something that YOU LOVE- FOR YOU everyday ( again – does not have to cost money or much time).

……..I encourage  you to take this short list and run with it….start with what is here and make it super long…..and specific to you.

YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR HAPPINESS. To quote Andy Andrews from the “Traveler’s Gift” ...the buck stops here!

Mona McClelland

Professional Life and Health Coach

the “Busy Mom Mentor”

 

~ What is an Empowered Woman anyways? ~

This post was inspired by my beautiful 21 year old daughter who is navigating her way, on HER journey in this world.

This week she called me from Montreal, where she is going to University, to tell me that she really needed someone to talk to.

By the time we spoke she had spoken to another friend of hers and was feeling much better but the issue at hand, although with more clarity at this point, was still gnawing at her.

She started by saying to me that her recently uprooted living situation had really got the best of her and that she thought she should sign up for some ‘assertiveness training classes’ to help empower her in the future.

Okay, I know you are a busy professional working mom, wondering what a story about a 21  year University student has to do with YOU? Everything….keep reading!

Now in my 5th decade of life I look back at all the things I was NEVER taught and am so very excited that my daughters (and I think most children these days) are learning HOW to be assertive….to NOT accept bullying, and to cultivate and LIVE their passions from such a very young age. AND where would I be today if I had learned these things in my 20s?

As I listened to my daughter talk about her conundrum……I had a great amount of empathy. It would not be any fun ….if after 2 months of selecting the ‘right’ place to live and then 2 months living there (after moving across the country) that you have to uproot and move again. Then of course deliberating on the new “right place to be” with the “right” roommates…..and having someone else squeak in and scoop THAT one too.

Here is what I told her:

First that what she was having to deal with SUCKED….big time.

And that if taking an assertiveness training would make her feel more empowered then go for it.

BUT what I thought she really needed to hear was this……

SHE WAS ALREADY EMPOWERED.……and it was because of the following 5 steps that she intuitively took:

1. She took stock of her situation and made a DECISION of what was best for her ( she had to leave the present living situation – it was a drag – but living with others more suited to her demographic would be better).

2. She set a timeline……(after midterms – again taking care of HER needs).

3. She took action and found 2 places that were suitable.

4. Support……When she felt overwhelmed or confused she reached out for help.

5. She was in touch with her emotions. Lets face it ladies…in this world we are still taught that being and showing emotions ( negative ones ) is unacceptable and YES uncomfortable. BUT they are called E-Motions for a reason….feel them ……and let them MOVE through you and out. Otherwise they WILL get stuck in your body and cause all sorts of BIGGER DISCOMFORT later.

I told her that she is one of the most empowered women I know and that is takes more courage to reach out and be vulnerable about a situation than act like an ISLAND  thinking you can do it ALL by yourself.

So now that you know what  a truly EMPOWERED woman is and what she does to be that way. I bet YOU can look in the mirror and see one looking right back at you.

Take care of yourself first ladies….because if you don’t…..everyone else depending on you will either walk all over you OR they won’t have YOU to depend on for long. A BURNT-OUT mom is no good to anyone.

My offer still stands….. I get that it is hard to reach out for help. But now that you know ( or are reminded) that it is a sign of STRENGTH  not weakness …...you can ask for help too.

Discover  now what is missing in your life……it is my honour to be there with you and hold your hand as you do!  (even if you are depressed, tired, lazy and/or have no goals).

Blessings,

Mona

the”Busy Mom Mentor”

….and remember “When Moms Happy, Everyone’s Happy”

Play with kids – make money

If you are reading this post, I am almost sure it is because of the subject title AND I know that you are more than a little bit curious about HOW you might play with your kids and make money.

Well we both know there are several ways that you could do that, just type in google and ask “how to play with kids and make money”….but what I am talking about is HOW you can structure your busy life, work, family, spouse, finances and self care and make money too (whether it be your dream job, work from home or figuring out HOW to make your “hobby” support your desired lifestyle.)

AND the irony of it all, is in the years I have been coaching, the one thing that will stop MOST women dead in their tracks, is having an idea and then getting STUCK on the HOW. Believe me, sister, ALL you need is the WHAT (the inspired idea), hold on to it, and the HOW will present itself. …And right now you are probably saying ” oh really……HOW”?

Today I am simply going to share with you 5 steps…Tips, I guess, but if you really do these 5 steps you will create a strong foundation to start manifesting DELIBERATELY your ideal EVERYTHING.

There is nothing different about me….from any of you.  Not too long ago I was a confused, messed up, depressed, single mom. One day I decided to take stock of what gifts I already had to offer the world, what my strengths were, then I decided to ‘get help’ …I hired a coach….and from there got clear on what/who I wanted in my life.  Oh Yah…I hit some roadblocks…BUT those roadblocks were GOLD, they showed me what was stopping me from stepping up and out ( even though at times I was as nervous as Bambi standing for the first time on new wobbly legs) But guess what….I got stronger….and YOU will too!

Ok…ready to make some changes in your world?

Remember I had no special talents or advantages. Anyone can do this stuff–including YOU.

1. Get Clear on Your Purpose

Remember I said all you needed to figure out is the WHAT you want…the inspiration for your life? Want to make your dreams come true? Clarifying this purpose is the one most important thing you must do

Having a crystal clear…focused understanding
of WHAT you truly want to do or give the world allows you to make decisions quick and easy. It keeps you on track with your goal markers. It helps you avoid getting side tracked and making mistakes. And it brings you back quickly to a simple quick-reference point for staying the course, (when challenges occur).

What you truly desire must be relevant to you. Why? Because it’s the compass for your LIFE. Why should you get that new job, start a new business, lose 25 pounds?  Don’t hang out with Dream Stealers (or give them ANY of your precious time).Know that it’s okay to like WHAT you like and to pursue your own path!

2. Follow a Plan

If you want to do three errands and still get to the school in time to pick up your kids…. you plan out the quickest and most efficient route right? This way you can get it all done and be on time. Oh sure you can just hop in the car and hope you get it all done BUT if you follow your simple plan you won’t waste any time, can just follow the plan and get the tasks completed effectively.

Keep your ability to become distracted by creating a check list and follow your plan. Keep your weaknesses in check–by following a plan.

There is really a very simple way to chart any goal IF you use two strategies: Creating a deadline and being accountable.

Deadlines force you to get serious complete your tasks, and show you clearly when you are NOT staying true to your plan. Firm deadlines help to eliminate excuses, and stop you from getting caught up in BUSY- ness that has nothing to do with your desired result.

And that’s where accountability comes in. You need some way to keep yourself on track.  For me “the coach” helped a ton…and the fact that I laid some money on the line too. You know it is not that you are purposely going to lie to yourself but the memory is fallible, and it’s easy to imagine you’re getting more accomplished more than you really think you are, just because you’re “working on it.” Oh boy, am I ever good at falling into that one. A system of accountability gives you a way to track your progress.

Use these tools and you can accomplish any task you set for yourself.

3. Houseclean Your Life

Oh yah… I can hear you groan…NO MORE housecleaning…puullease!  But this type of housecleaning will GIVE you energy and space to receive what you have set out to get.

First – get rid of the people who are pulling you down and taking you away from your dreams….

OUCH – harsh right…okay you do not have to disown anyone. BUT really limit your time with these well intentioned “loved ones” who tell you that you cannot do what you WANT to do. They think they are keeping you from getting hurt or failing. Well guess what? They are not you…it is not their life…Thank them and carry on with YOUR dreams. (These would be the dream stealers I mentioned earlier). Also keep your distance from nagging, complaining, energy drainers….people AND violent drama on TV and in the news,

Make better choices of what  and who you want to share your environment with. AND guess what …when you change yourself and are true to yourself…they won’t come around you anymore AND you will not enjoy sources of “negative” entertainment that you once allowed to seep into your being….

Other housecleaning to do?….Yep, get rid of clutter, tie up loose ends, get a debt repayment program going, so you can focus on building wealth and abundance. “GET YOUR HOUSE IN ORDER”…make room for the new. “YOUR HOUSE” is your environment….as you clean it….WHAT you now want will be able to find a space to call home.

Know also that in choosing to do one thing, you’re also choosing not to do an awful lot of other things. Commit to people, actions or things only when they’re in line with Item 1 on this list–WHAT YOU WANT – for your life – your purpose.

4. Embrace Responsibility for Your Life

Oh I have been the biggest victim of circumstance in my life….OMG… but I had to let go of all that stuff…SO what!! ..”The past is the past for a reason – ITS OVER” Sounds harsh doesn’t it…yes I know….I remember finally waking up to this fact and I think for a while I became more of a victim “nobody understood me”. BUT the LOVING truth is you aren’t a victim of your childhood or your past or your circumstances–unless you choose to be. There are no excuses.

When I realized the “buck” stopped here…. I had to stop making excuses and I stopped waiting for others to help me. Instead, I started changing my life AND I sought out an invested in me AND the kind of help and resources I needed.

It didn’t always feel easy and some days I can still slide a little backwards (my latest EXCUSE…menopause – ha ha). I assure you, it DOES get easier when you get clear about your purpose and you embrace it with fierce desire. When you’re driven by that purpose of what you really want in your life and when every action you take is aligned with it, it’s easy to stay on track and receive every goal or marker you set for yourself.

5. Focus on Direct Action

Start taking Action. Lay out the first step ( if you do not know the step after that …that is okay..It will reveal itself) But, don’t let that stop you. TAKE the first step fearlessly and watch what unfolds by taking direct action puts YOU in the driver’s seat and in control of your destiny. If you are not taking charge, then you are handing someone else control of your life.

I get that there are people there to take into consideration. Your spouse, perhaps, your kids too, but I am sure that you get that there is a difference between finding your dream and taking steps to make it happen and asking permission. You are a grown, powerful, vibrant woman with so much to give the world and when you step out and take action, not only will YOU benefit but of course so will those you love.

So as you can see here, there is no magic potion or spell. The things we want do not instantly manifest on our front lawns on a whim. You just have to step out and take them. All it requires is desire, strategy, some hard work (which moms are already familiar with) and the determination to see it through.

These 5 steps worked for me, and they’ll work for you too. Embrace them and you’ll be well on your way to creating the life you’ve always dreamed of.

Mona

the “Busy Mom Mentor”

ps if you are at all like I was …reach out and get some help digging for that gold inside you to help you remember what it is that you were once so passionate about.

In 30 min I can help you see clearly what it is you TRULY WANT to make happen in your life EVEN if you have forgotten, given up and are in a very bad mood about your life everyday!
Check out what’s brewing deep down inside you with my 30 minute rapid coaching discovery session  NOW

pps If you know of any other mom who would benefit from this information, I thank you, in advance for passing it on!

Namaste

What a waste of Energy

You can not control others………. Intellectually that makes perfect sense right? Then why is it that you keep trying?

There is a difference between trying to control or change others AND having your needs met.

The first is YOU trying to make those around you behave in a way that works for YOU in your life.

The latter is YOU asking speaking out, communicating what you need ( and most of those needs can be met by you!)

Even really simple things can drive you crazy like, having the toothpaste tube squeezed in the middle instead of  having it rolled up from the bottom, a new roll of TP put on instead of just leaving the empty cardboard tube and even driving yourself crazy because your kid did not do what you asked him/her for the 100th time. ARGHHH!

Well, just think about all the stress you are causing yourself and all the energy you are wasting by getting yourself so worked up inside. But what are you to do about it……how can YOU control them or get THEM to change (so YOU can feel better)? Wow, I am just tired trying to follow that train of thought.

Well, here are two things you can do right away:

1. Tell the person HOW you FEEL about it and ASK them if they can agree to do this for you or at least meet you half way. (now I know with kids it takes a little longer – BUT believe me, even with kids it is “human nature” to follow through with doing the task or request IF you give them your reason.) Has it ever worked to just “want” to do what you are told ( maybe only for fear of repercussions?) AND all the complaining in the world will NOT work…it will just make others turn a deaf ear or not want to be around you.

2.  Take a deep breath , ask yourself HOW truly important this is to you….can you relax and just let it go ( and if not WHY not?). Then let it go….It may still bother you, but if you can do this time and time again, before you know it, the more calm you are and things are getting done AND your calm energy will move around you and throughout your environment. Others will love being around you AND things WILL get done.

Lets face it …it is truly the small little things that build up that interfere with YOUR own peace of mind…..WHY are you letting that happen to you? Yes, YOU, are letting that happen to you and maybe even hindering some very loving relationships where that energy could be used for nurturing instead dismantling.

And if you really still feel you can not let go of the need to CONTROL……well how about funneling that energy to areas of your life and focus on things that are really in your control. YOU WILL feel better!  I guarantee it! ( but remember the key is to do these things – shift your focus – the mind can only hold one thought or focus at a time!)

Right now YOU are in charge of:

1. Your level of honesty.
2. How many times you smile today.
3. How often you say “thank you.”
4. What you spend your money on.

5. How you act on your feelings
6. Whether or not you give someone the benefit of the doubt.
7. Whether you listen or wait to talk.
8. When you walk away from a conversation.
9. The type of food you eat.
10. How much time you spend worrying.

11. How much exercise you get.
12. How many times you swear at others in traffic.
13. How often you think about your past.
14. How many negative articles you read or news you listen to.
15. The loving  attention you give to your spouse & kids when you see them.

16. How much you enjoy your kids right now.
17. Whether or not you communicate something that’s on your mind.
18. How you interpret situations.
19. How often you notice & appreciate small acts of kindness-they’re everywhere!

20. How deeply you breathe when you experience stress.
21. How many times you say “I love you.”

Food for thought isn’t it?

Just think of all the extra energy you will have when you stop trying to control and manage others and just manage yourself? Ahhh Bliss……


Can’t seem to STOP doing what is bringing you what you DON”T want in your life?

Maybe I can help you….Well in fact I KNOW I can help you.

Sometimes doesn’t it feel good to get an objective point of view…..One that can help you “see the forest for the trees” of should I say ” feel seen, heard and valued in YOUR world”?…Stop complaining - start attracting what you really want…give that all your attention, energy and focus.

You want more love….give more love (but not to someone if they are abusing  you), want more money, clean up your debt and start focusing on wealth and abundance, want more time….simplify your life and focus on what YOU TRULY WANT. STOP COMPLAINING about what you don’t want…cause guess what YOU WILL JUST GET MORE OF THAT.

Don’t know what you want ?  In 30 minutes with me ……YOU WILL KNOW.

Time to Discover what you Want to HAVE in your life. This is your movie…time to step into YOUR starring role!

….or you can just continue to get what you are getting now.  CHOOSE something NEW TODAY.

….and Remember  “When Moms Happy….Everyone’s Happy”


 

 

 

 

Mona

the “Busy Mom Mentor”

ps. if this messages today has helped you, even in the smallest of ways, please pass it on to others who are waiting to be inspired to create what they truly want in their lives.

Is Sugar making your body Toxic

Is Sugar making  Your Body Toxic 

Here is a Video that  will show you how sugar not only causes heart disease and diabetes, but also feeds tumors and causes them to grow, plus is as addictive as Cocaine to your brain……( making you crave more and more and ……..)

 Everyone needs to watch this video from a recent episode of 60 Minutes.  I don’t think most people understand  just how harmful sugar is to your health OR the seriousness of this epidemic.  Most people blindly eat and drink loads of sugar each day, unbeknownst to most of them. (Americans consume an incredible 1/3 lb of sugar per DAY on average). How is this internally affecting your body and your biochemistry?

 Please share this page with all of your family and friends so they can be empowered to deeply, positively affect their health, well being and longevity. 

What I believe  is that food manufacturers want you to be addicted to sugar and continue to buy their junk food and sugar laden products which will destroy your health.

It really should be no surprise to anyone today that  excess sugar consumption contributes to obesity, type 2 diabetes, heart disease, and cancer.

Your argument might be that some natural sugars have always been a part of the human diet, and why would this be an issue?  Yes, we have always eaten small amount from fruit ( in season )….this was a part of our ancestral diet.  But for the first time in history we are exposed to massive quantities of ADDED sugars. Just look at an average street corner in any city in America ( usually at least two shops of the four corners are selling,  flavored coffees, muffins, cakes, cookies, sweets, sweets, and more sweets. AND sugar is hiding in most of the condiments, dressings and tomatoes sauces to boot!

The average American eats a gross 130 lbs of sugar per person per year, or 1/3 lb per day!  Personally I think this is just blatant disrespect for the body….or ignorance. WAKE UP…..make some changes NOW.

Did you also see in the video how in one controlled study, they replaced 25% of the daily calories of the subjects with sugary drinks, then took blood tests every 30 minutes around the clock?  These tests showed that by replacing 25% of their daily calories with sugary drinks, the subjects increased their dangerous small dense LDL particles in their blood which causes arterial plaque and heart disease.  Soooo….. sugar and carbs contribute more to hurting our  hearts than fats do.

And did you also catch the bit about how sugar feeds tumors and can make cancer worse? Yikes!

Finally, some evidence by the medical community that proves what I was taught over 20 years ago ( and-FYI, it was really hard for me to change back then )….SUGAR is bad stuff.

If you must have something sweet…..check the studies about honey and some other natural sweeteners…. in small amounts they are not anywhere near as bad for you as the “white stuff”( remember the white stuff is processed)….stay away from HGFS and when you indulge try a piece of 85 % dark chocolate OR Raw chocolate….YUM ( not the whole bar…just a square.)

There are so many other great foods to eat and with the internet now, a plethora, an infinite number of recipes are just waiting to tantalize the taste buds. Save the sweets for special occasions……feast on those days ( not everyday!)

Please take just a moment right now and as I mentioned at the start of this message…share this with everyone you know and love!

To a Long, Healthy and  Vibrant Life

 

 

 

 

 

Mona McClelland

Professional Health & Certified Life Coach

Author of “the Visible Blueprint”  7 steps to more Time, Money and Love

aka the “Busy Mom Mentor”  www.WhenMomsHappy.com

Do you need more money?

My experience in working with my clients has proved to me over and over again that you want more in your life…..and in over 90% of the cases, what you want most is, more time, more MONEY and more love.

So today we are going to talk about Money: why you don’t have it, why it is never enough and how to get more of it.

First of all you must understand that money is just energy. What do I mean by that? Well…if money is just sitting on a table, minding its own business….it is static….it does nothing. BUT the energy YOU give money by your thoughts, beliefs and perspective determines how easily money flows to you or or AVOIDS you.

Here is what I mean by that.

Money is attracted to order. So, Is your home in order? Your car? Your relationships? Your body? Your mind?

As you decide to find a way to create more money in your life or  move into your next money level, you must do some preparation !

It’s impossible to BE the same and HAVE different. If you want your life to ULTIMATELY change, YOU must ultimately change who you are, how you think and feel about money, who/what you are connected to and what you are doing.

Friendships may need to come to an end. (yes, some friendships simply limit your ability to grow in many areas including finances)

Closets may need some cleaning out. (remember money likes order)

Your body may need to go on a cleanse. (renew and rejuvenate your body and mind)

Believe me, the more you release from your life that no longer serves you, the QUICKER  you will create your new financial level.

You must ruthlessly separate all poverty and beliefs about poverty (regardless of your current circumstances) to attract more money. This is what I mean when I talk about  poverty – I mean low-level frequency, toxic, stagnant – people, places, activities, thoughts & things!!!!

Here is an easy assignment you can do – write down any “poverty” in your life and make a choice to let it go. Then also write down what you will replace it with.

Examples:

Low frequency (poverty): Messy Closet – just can’t let go of something that you have worn for YEARS …just in case you might wear it one more time??? ( I know I used to do this one) – get rid of it!

Action : De-clutter Closet

High-frequency (prosperity)
- only bring into your closet that which you need or want. Only what you enjoy wearing… what makes you feel good.

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Low frequency (poverty): Friend with the “glass half full” mentality. You can still love this friend…but radically limit the amount of time you spend with her.

Action : When you are with her, immediately stop her when she begins her complaining again. ( Simply interrupt her and then ask ” So, ______, What do you want?”. This question will not only stop her in her tracks…but it will get her to start thinking of a solution. If she continues to bring you down to her level….you may have to stop keeping company with her

High-frequency (prosperity)
: Find a group of people who are like minded. Join a in-person or online group or coaching program that will take you to the places and the mindset that creates the changes you want to see in your world.

….Remember….it all starts with your Vision….have you created your Life Script yet?

If not…here is where you start.

And remember…When Moms Happy ….Everyone’s Happy”!

Mona McClelland
“the Busy Mom Mentor”