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The Fitness Code

What is the Fitness Code?Well in honor of “March is Vibrant Mom Month”I thought I would summarize what equals a life lived in balance and harmony. I believe that everyone’s purpose here, living this life, is JOY. That’s it…. Living Joyfully is your purpose….good to know right?

And if you are not living in Joy…then you ARE out of alignment with your purpose and the pain you are feeling is simply your habitual resistance to change. Meaning you are holding ON to something ( a job, relationship, attitude, belief, habit) that does NOT serve you.

AND to make matters worse you are digging in your heels….banging your head against the wall…swimming against the current to HOLD on to this way of being…of living…for FEAR of not knowing what will happen if you let (it) go!

So what is the Fitness Code?

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I worked with this amazing coachonce that must have felt like banging his head against the wall with me…. I was in a very tough situation that I had to change to move forward in my life…..and week after week….. I kept telling him all the reasons that I could not. This lack of decision and action was hell for me…BUT I kept choosing to mull it over and over and talk about it over and over and still do nothing. Talk about a definition of insanity. (ever done this?)He told me something that made such a strong impact on me….that today I live by it and I base my decision on it.

I call this the Fitness Code.….would you like to try it on for size? Lets get started!1. F stands for Fiscal Fitness….. if you can not move forward in your life because you feel TRAPPED by your bleak financial situation….you have to do something about it. Get your head out of the sand ….look at it and act.
I started using a method taught to millions by Harv Eker and with a few tweaks of my own I call it “the Money Habit” …but know that FIRST if you are in a “debt” situation that you must take care of that first…. you can not create wealth…while feeling burdened by debt…find someone to help you create a debt settlement or repayment program and then focus on creating a better fiscal future with the Money Habit. Listen to the Money Habit here

2. E stands for Emotional Fitness …..if you are someone who feels emotionally defeated often….then you may have a little bit of work to do. There is a pattern or an underlying theme that makes you feel that you are responsible for the outcome of a situation ( or you are in menopause…lol…but really this can stir your life up dramatically). When you are emotionally challenged…..your self confidence is weak. You do not believe in yourself and it is hard to set goals and accomplish your desires. Join the “rubber band ” club. I did this to help my youngest daughter and along the way it helped me immensely. Put an elastic band on your arm and every time a situation comes up to challenge you emotionally..snap it and affirm something like ” I am ok…I am strong…I can feel it to heal it and then move on.” This is cognitive behaviour therapy at its simplest.Don’t knock it until you try it.

3. M stands for Mental Fitness ….. here is where you can really have some fun AND I could go on and on for pages about this…BUT simply put, YOU are in charge of your thoughts and what you feed yourself mentally. Do you want to know what you are thinking most of the time? Just look at your life…it will be a direct reflection of your thoughts. That can be a tough pill to swallow. Want more fun in your life…are you thinking ‘fun thoughts’? Want more love in your life…’ are you thinking and acting loving’? Want more money in your life…’are you thinking about all the debt you are in’?
I think you get the picture. Here it is again in a nutshell. 1. Thoughts become feelings. 2. Feelings create your TYPE of action ( or inaction) 3. Action creates results. OR THOUGHTS BECOME THINGS.
Start paying full attention to your thoughts….PLAY with this and see what happens!

4. P stands for Physical Fitness ….. I think this one is quite obvious. If you are not moving your body….you will not feel energized. NO you do not have to go to the gym if you DISLIKE that sort of thing. But, the good news is there are a TON of other things you can do. Can’t get out or have a physical limitation? Search YouTube….I used to spend tons of time and money going to Hot Yoga classes. Now my classes stream to me through the internet on my time and I spend the money doing other fun things. Check it out. Just type in whatever you like in the YouTube search bar and I guarantee something will come back that you can do. Or just get outside for a walk every day.

5. S stands for Spiritual Fitness ….. In my humble opinion this rates right up there with Physical Fitness as a priority for wellness and a vibrant life. If you do not believe or wish to spend time in prayer or meditation…find out what makes your heart sing and then spend time fully engrossed and focused on that.Personally, I love prayer and silence. In my prayer I do the blessing and inquiring and in silence I wait for the answers. This is when you hear your higher self, intuition or God speak to you. In this busy world don’t you deserve to find peace…peace on your terms? Give yourself this gift. Start with 5 minutes a day….ask a question and then just sit..stare out the window and breathe. The more you practice this …the more it WORKS.AND this is a valuable part of the “creating your life deliberately” puzzle.

Now for those of you who may be struggling with relationships …here is what was once told to me. ” Love = when to people resonate in harmony …mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually”. One caveat….. YOU CAN NOT CHANGE ANYONE ELSE….do this for yourself. Practice the your FITNESS CODE and see ..like magic ..what/who aligns with you!

Commit to adding one component of the Fitness Code into your life daily and watch your life transform right before your very eyes.

…and how do we know the importance of this Mom?

….because “When Moms Happy..Everyone’s Happy”

Blessings,

Mona

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~ the Buck Stops Here ~

“Stop Expecting People to show up the way you want them to and allow them to show up as they are, and stop holding people hostage for what you they should or shouldn’t have done” Iyanla Vanzant

I couldn’t have said this better myself!

What happens when we fall in love, develop a core friendship, have children, parents etc…..is we see them through the lens of our perceptions and the stories of OUR lives. After the “fairy” dust settles and the child grows, time passes in a friendship and the spouse becomes “comfortable”….what is there?

This is a question that has crossed the minds ( either consciously or not) of every man, woman and parent living on this planet earth.

What gives us ANY right to think that someone else is responsible for our happiness?

Well I am not a psychologist…..but it all seems to point back to our childhood. What happens when we get hurt and what goes on at birthday and holiday time? We are born and begin living watching people please us …we soon find out that the way TO GET WHAT WE WANT is ….to please and expect to be pleased by others. So we DO BE and ACT in a certain way…that is then expected of us ( and we expect it back from others)

What a complete recipe for sadness and despair, anger and jealousy not to mention some resentment thrown in there too.

So what can we do about this? I don’t think anyone, anytime soon is going to stop giving their newborns and growing children love/affection with hopes to please them….but at some point we ALL need to see that true happiness/pleasure is our very own personal responsibility AND that any other gestures of pleasing from others is an added bonus.

AND something else very cool happens, when we ensure our OWN personal happiness….we have MORE to give others and then the feelings are naturally boomeranged right back to us…….WONDERFUL.

How are some ways you can be responsible for your own happiness?

1. Write down everything that makes you unhappy and then look for/do/be the opposite of everything on that list.

2. Keep an abundance journal or board AND every day make note of everything positive/free/abundant that comes to you. ( and if you focus on this MORE with naturally come ( almost magically).

3. Focus on ways to give. This does not have to cost money OR take much time….perhaps a flower, a smile, a compliment. “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you” . THE BONUS – you will FEEL GREAT!

4. Work at a job you LOVE or do your job and find a hobby that you look forward to spending time on.

5. Say I love you and show it to those you care for as much as you can. (If they say ‘enough already – I know you love me’ then you will know you are giving out lots of love.)

6. Do something that YOU LOVE- FOR YOU everyday ( again – does not have to cost money or much time).

……..I encourage you to take this short list and run with it….start with what is here and make it super long…..and specific to you.

YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR HAPPINESS. To quote Andy Andrews from the “Traveler’s Gift” ...the buck stops here!

Mona McClelland

Professional Life and Health Coach

the “Busy Mom Mentor”

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What a waste of Energy

You can not control others………. Intellectually that makes perfect sense right? Then why is it that you keep trying?

There is a difference between trying to control or change others AND having your needs met.

The first is YOU trying to make those around you behave in a way that works for YOU in your life.

The latter is YOU asking speaking out, communicating what you need ( and most of those needs can be met by you!)

Even really simple things can drive you crazy like, having the toothpaste tube squeezed in the middle instead of having it rolled up from the bottom, a new roll of TP put on instead of just leaving the empty cardboard tube and even driving yourself crazy because your kid did not do what you asked him/her for the 100th time. ARGHHH!

Well, just think about all the stress you are causing yourself and all the energy you are wasting by getting yourself so worked up inside. But what are you to do about it……how can YOU control them or get THEM to change (so YOU can feel better)? Wow, I am just tired trying to follow that train of thought.

Well, here are two things you can do right away:

1. Tell the person HOW you FEEL about it and ASK them if they can agree to do this for you or at least meet you half way. (now I know with kids it takes a little longer – BUT believe me, even with kids it is “human nature” to follow through with doing the task or request IF you give them your reason.) Has it ever worked to just “want” to do what you are told ( maybe only for fear of repercussions?) AND all the complaining in the world will NOT work…it will just make others turn a deaf ear or not want to be around you.

2. Take a deep breath , ask yourself HOW truly important this is to you….can you relax and just let it go ( and if not WHY not?). Then let it go….It may still bother you, but if you can do this time and time again, before you know it, the more calm you are and things are getting done AND your calm energy will move around you and throughout your environment. Others will love being around you AND things WILL get done.

Lets face it …it is truly the small little things that build up that interfere with YOUR own peace of mind…..WHY are you letting that happen to you? Yes, YOU, are letting that happen to you and maybe even hindering some very loving relationships where that energy could be used for nurturing instead dismantling.

And if you really still feel you can not let go of the need to CONTROL……well how about funneling that energy to areas of your life and focus on things that are really in your control. YOU WILL feel better! I guarantee it! ( but remember the key is to do these things – shift your focus – the mind can only hold one thought or focus at a time!)

Right now YOU are in charge of:

1. Your level of honesty.
2. How many times you smile today.
3. How often you say “thank you.”
4. What you spend your money on.

5. How you act on your feelings
6. Whether or not you give someone the benefit of the doubt.
7. Whether you listen or wait to talk.
8. When you walk away from a conversation.
9. The type of food you eat.
10. How much time you spend worrying.

11. How much exercise you get.
12. How many times you swear at others in traffic.
13. How often you think about your past.
14. How many negative articles you read or news you listen to.
15. The loving attention you give to your spouse & kids when you see them.

16. How much you enjoy your kids right now.
17. Whether or not you communicate something that’s on your mind.
18. How you interpret situations.
19. How often you notice & appreciate small acts of kindness-they’re everywhere!

20. How deeply you breathe when you experience stress.
21. How many times you say “I love you.”

Food for thought isn’t it?

Just think of all the extra energy you will have when you stop trying to control and manage others and just manage yourself? Ahhh Bliss……

Can’t seem to STOP doing what is bringing you what you DON”T want in your life?

Maybe I can help you….Well in fact I KNOW I can help you.

Sometimes doesn’t it feel good to get an objective point of view…..One that can help you “see the forest for the trees” of should I say ” feel seen, heard and valued in YOUR world”?…Stop complaining - start attracting what you really want…give that all your attention, energy and focus.

You want more love….give more love (but not to someone if they are abusing you), want more money, clean up your debt and start focusing on wealth and abundance, want more time….simplify your life and focus on what YOU TRULY WANT. STOP COMPLAINING about what you don’t want…cause guess what YOU WILL JUST GET MORE OF THAT.

Don’t know what you want ? In 30 minutes with me ……YOU WILL KNOW.

Time to Discover what you Want to HAVE in your life. This is your movie…time to step into YOUR starring role!

….or you can just continue to get what you are getting now. CHOOSE something NEW TODAY.

…….and Remember “When Moms Happy….Everyone’s Happy”

Mona

the “Busy Mom Mentor”

ps. if this messages today has helped you, even in the smallest of ways, please pass it on to others who are waiting to be inspired to create what they truly want in their lives.

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Is Sugar making your body Toxic

Is Sugar making Your Body Toxic ?

Here is a Video that will show you how sugar not only causes heart disease and diabetes, but also feeds tumors and causes them to grow, plus is as addictive as Cocaine to your brain……( making you crave more and more and ……..)

Everyone needs to watch this video from a recent episode of 60 Minutes. I don’t think most people understand just how harmful sugar is to your health OR the seriousness of this epidemic. Most people blindly eat and drink loads of sugar each day, unbeknownst to most of them. (Americans consume an incredible 1/3 lb of sugar per DAY on average). How is this internally affecting your body and your biochemistry?

Please share this page with all of your family and friends so they can be empowered to deeply, positively affect their health, well being and longevity.

What I believe is that food manufacturers want you to be addicted to sugar and continue to buy their junk food and sugar laden products which will destroy your health.

It really should be no surprise to anyone today that excess sugar consumption contributes to obesity, type 2 diabetes, heart disease, and cancer.

Your argument might be that some natural sugars have always been a part of the human diet, and why would this be an issue? Yes, we have always eaten small amount from fruit ( in season )….this was a part of our ancestral diet. But for the first time in history we are exposed to massive quantities of ADDED sugars. Just look at an average street corner in any city in America ( usually at least two shops of the four corners are selling, flavored coffees, muffins, cakes, cookies, sweets, sweets, and more sweets. AND sugar is hiding in most of the condiments, dressings and tomatoes sauces to boot!

The average American eats a gross 130 lbs of sugar per person per year, or 1/3 lb per day! Personally I think this is just blatant disrespect for the body….or ignorance. WAKE UP…..make some changes NOW.

Did you also see in the video how in one controlled study, they replaced 25% of the daily calories of the subjects with sugary drinks, then took blood tests every 30 minutes around the clock? These tests showed that by replacing 25% of their daily calories with sugary drinks, the subjects increased their dangerous small dense LDL particles in their blood which causes arterial plaque and heart disease. Soooo….. sugar and carbs contribute more to hurting our hearts than fats do.

And did you also catch the bit about how sugar feeds tumors and can make cancer worse? Yikes!

Finally, some evidence by the medical community that proves what I was taught over 20 years ago ( and-FYI, it was really hard for me to change back then )….SUGAR is bad stuff.

If you must have something sweet…..check the studies about honey and some other natural sweeteners…. in small amounts they are not anywhere near as bad for you as the “white stuff”( remember the white stuff is processed)….stay away from HGFS and when you indulge try a piece of 85 % dark chocolate OR Raw chocolate….YUM ( not the whole bar…just a square.)

There are so many other great foods to eat and with the internet now, a plethora, an infinite number of recipes are just waiting to tantalize the taste buds. Save the sweets for special occasions……feast on those days ( not everyday!)

Please take just a moment right now and as I mentioned at the start of this message…share this with everyone you know and love!

To a Long, Healthy and Vibrant Life

Mona McClelland

Professional Health & Certified Life Coach

Author of “the Visible Blueprint” 7 steps to more Time, Money and Love

aka the “Busy Mom Mentor” www.WhenMomsHappy.com

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Your Worst Enemy

I can not emphasize enough HOW important it is for YOU, mom, to take care of yourself!

In this busy world you are so good at doing so many things that everyone around you EXPECTS you to simply keep doing these things. Then one day you are wiped out or sick and you cannot. YOU are our own worst enemy. YOU have set up that expectation with everyone….including your spouse, boss and children.

What if…just what if you put yourself on the top of that list and set up some expectations of yourself FOR yourself?

Match everything you do for others with what you could do for yourself.
Example: You drive your kids to all sorts of activities…music lessons, gymnastics, school events…WHAT could you be driving yourself to once a week to nourish your interests?

OR you buy food and make meals that you know your family will enjoy….do you do this for yourself? Do you put anything on that grocery list just for you?

I am going to give you an assignment this week AND if you want to send your results to me for accountability I would LOVE it to hear what you did for YOU.

In the next 7 days make your self a list (using the clarity through consciousness method).

Remember you know what you DON’T want and this is the best clue to showing you what you do want. So take a piece of paper lengthwise and draw a line down the middle. On the left you write everything you don’t want about the topic you have selected. In this case the topic is ‘what do I love to do for myself’?’ So this exercise should be easy AND insightful…IF YOU DO IT.

Ex: on the left you might write: I don’t like being so busy I have no time for a walk ( in nature, by the beach etc), or I don’t like being so busy that I don’t read my book every night. So the opposites of these are : I want to go for a walk in nature EVERY week, I want to read in my book every night, I want help making lunches etc.

You can not change that which you are not conscious of …….GET CONSCIOUS…. then take the steps to change things. Create a new set of expectations for yourself, your boss and for your family.

STOP being your own worst enemy and start being YOUR OWN BEST FRIEND. How you treat yourself IS how others will treat you. How do you want to be treated?

Let me know HOW your life changes.

Mona McClelland
the “Busy Mom Mentor”

* if you find this information helpful PLEASE share it with other busy working moms that you know it would help to take back their lives and begin sharing their gifts with the world!

….And REMEMBER ”When Moms Happy – Everyone’s Happy”

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Not Enough Hours in the Day

What is on your TO DO list today? Probably MORE than you can even think of getting done. So much so that you don’t even make a to do list anymore because it just stresses you out more…right?

….and have you ever said…there is NOT enough hours in the day (or I wish there were two of me so I could get it all done). But secretly you know ….IT WILL NEVER BE DONE. Are you feeling like that hamster on a wheel these days….running around in circles?

Well… you are right… you will never get it all done….BUT you can get done the important tasks and then ALLOW what you have not gotten done to fill in between the big priorities. I teach all about this in my program The Visible Blueprint “7 steps to more Time, Money & Love”. But for today what I want to share with you are 7 Steps to ELIMINATE Time Scarcity and leave you will a couple of action steps to help you get off the hamster wheel today!

1. Eliminate Overwhelm: Stop thinking there is not enough time to get things done. This is really key. You have to stop telling yourself daily that there is not enough time and change your mindset. Make your mantra something like this: “I get everything I need to get done everyday calmly and easily.”

2. LOVE EVERYTHING you do. Even if you have to pretend. What is better… Hating every job and task that needs to be done in your day OR finding something about it that you can love. Even doing the dishes can be viewed as a meditation…..as you automatically stack, rinse or wipe them, hold in your mind your life vision OR simply focus on your breath. If at work you simply hate pushing the paper around make a game of it…..FIND something you can love about your work and focus on that every day.

3. Develop Patient Timelines: Over promising or trying to do too much in too little time is a common stressor. Set realistic timelines and then don’t push yourself to OVER DELIVER. Multi-tasking is highly over rated and continuously makes you set the bar higher each time….moving closer and closer towards BURNOUT.

4. SIMPLIFY YOUR LIFE: Time to look at the schedule…the stuff in your house and everything on that to do list. Be radical here. Just CANCEL some stuff in your life…..think about YOUR childhood….remember BEING bored? Cool…..make your life more like that.

5. Upgrade Your Energy Sources: Meditate (even while waiting in a line up – enjoy the pause in life). Do yoga, take a dance class, watch funny movies, play games with your kids, walk on the beach, run, play an instrument, sing, laugh……..create energy in your life….(even look at the food and water you are putting in your body…..live food = LIFE).

6. Redefine Your World: YOU have created the world that you live in. Pay attention to what you are habitually thinking, decide what you want and then focus on that only. ( Hint: be specific).

7. Elevate your Consciousness: Find books, mentors, classes or workshops that teach you about living your life consciously. (Good resource: Book – Power vs Force ).

What you can do to eliminate Time Scarcity:

1. Record thoughts of Time Scarcity( keep a journal of what is making your think or feel that there is no time).

2. Become more aware about HOW you FEEL about time. ( Do you always feel rushed or that there is NO PEACE in your world?)

3. Be ACCEPTING of HOW you feel. Awareness is the first step to change. Awareness in and of itself can create CHANGE.

( 4. If you need help get it…. Hire a coach, talk to a friend, take a course, read a resource book)
…..”if you want to change your life…YOU have to change your life!”

If your life feels like it is spiraling out of control, send me an email. I will be glad to help you pinpoint what is taking over your life and HOW YOU can regain hours in the day and add years to your life.

Click here now to invest in taking back your life.

Here’s to finding more time for MOM!

Have a Great ( UN-Overwhelming Day)

…..and remember ”When Moms Happy….Everyone’s Happy”

Mona
the “Busy Mom Mentor”

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What are you afraid of?

What are you afraid of? You may be thinking, “this seems to be a very broad question” to be asking. You may be wondering, in what context am I asking this. Am I wanting to know about your blocks to creating the most loving relationship that you have always imagined? Am I curious about why you struggle with finances and why there is not enough at the end of every month? Are you worried about your health?

Well I guess I am inquiring about all of this but mostly I am asking you WHY you are afraid?

I am inspired to ask this question because two books I have just read. One called “Paradox of Healing ” by Dr Greenwood and the other is “Dying to be Me” by Anita Moorjani.

The first is by a professional…a Doctor who writes in depth about the inadequacies of the medical profession to assist people to heal …..who poses the question of “how can a ‘rational science’ possibly heal most people who suffer from illnesses primarily caused by an irrational emotion( fear)”?

The second is an in depth account of one woman’s battle with terminal cancer, her incredibly detailed NDE (near death experience) and her miraculous, complete, rapid and spontaneous healing.

The common thread in both accounts…..FEAR.

Has fear ever stopped you, paralyzed you, held you at bay from that which you most wanted to do? AND did it succeed?

You see, we are all meant to LIVE…to be joyful, to celebrate each day of LIFE. You are meant to LOVE and share that love with others….and they are meant to do the same.

What if you could really truly LIVE to your fullest potential…move through that fear and feel amazing each day? What if you knew that we are all so connected and because of this connection HOW YOU TREAT YOURSELF reflects on how others feel. If you knew that would you CHANGE the way you think, talk about and treat yourself? Wouldn’t that be the most “unselfish” gift to give back to the world……To everyone you love?

Just simply…start treating yourself better!

That is what I have been trying to tell you and that is how I can best support you.

Today and everyday do one loving act of kindness to YOURSELF. Try this just for one week and see what changes in your world. AND embrace the joy of being ALIVE.

If you don’t know how to let go of the fear I suggest you read “Dying to be Me” by Anita Moorjani to start with.

If you need help…reach out…to a friend, a coach/counselor, God…..just reach out. YOU are worth it and the world ( your family) needs YOU.

I am here to support you, in loving yourself and learning how to do what you have forgotten. To take back your life and BE AMAZING.

For more information on my BLUEPRINT to help you take back your life Click Here.

To claim your 30 minute Rapid Coaching Session today to finally find out WHAT YOU ARE AFRAID OF …… Click Here.

You were created, you are a creator. What will you deliberately create for yourself TODAY?

With deep appreciation and love for who YOU are.

Blessings,

Mona
the “Busy Mom Mentor”
Author of The Visible Blueprint

and remember “When Moms Happy…..Everyone’s Happy”

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De-Stressssssss – can you?

I think there is an epidemic today – it is called adrenal exhaustion. Do you know what that is or what the symptoms are?

Let me enlighten you……

Some experts believe that upwards of 80% of the population suffers from some level of adrenal insufficiency. Besides the usual symptoms of overwhelming fatigue and inability to handle stress, the symptoms listed below provide a more complete picture of adrenal fatigue and are often overlooked even by alternative practitioners.

ASTHMA, BRONCHITIS or CHRONIC COUGH, ALLERGIES, RECURRENT INFECTIONS, MUSCLE WEAKNESS AND BACK PAIN, SLEEP DISTURBANCES, DIZZINESS (POSTURAL HYPO TENSION), INFLAMMATION, HYPOGLYCEMIA, HEADACHES, BEHAVIOR AND MEMORY PROBLEMS, SALT CRAVING, EXCESSIVE THIRST AND URINATION, SWELLING, HEMORRHOIDS, VARICOSE VEINS, INDIGESTION, HYPER PIGMENTATION, HEART SOUNDS.

What is going on?

You go to bed at midnight and get up at 6 am day after day after day and then wonder WHY you cannot recover your energy. Our brain chemistry is meant to work with the daylight…..night comes the brain sends out the chemicals necessary for sleep and rejuvenation. Day comes and again the brain signals WAKE UP with energy for the day after a period of rest.

BUT with the advent of artificial light our brains chemistry is fooled and the body does not get the rest it requires to replenish the body on a daily basis. Then on top of all that throw in the multitudes of multitasking you do throughout the day and the quick unhealthy food (or reasonable facsimile) you put into your body and then you wonder why you cannot get out of first gear.

What can you do? You can see there is a common thread to my messages here….what can you do…what are you WILLING to do to help YOURSELF so you can have the quality of life that you want so YOU can have more LIFE for yourself and energy for your family?

Let me leave you today with a simple exercise that you can do over the next week so you can quickly SEE what is draining all of your energy.

Print out a BLANK calendar template and then label on each day HOW you are feeling ….in relation to the activity you are doing that day.

EX: Monday – activity = Work (happy, sad, calm, stressed, angry, frustrated, bored etc.) Volunteering at the school (happy, sad calm etc)……. THEN, look over these activities and identify which ones you are “stressed” by AND determine what the trigger might be. (ex: too tight a deadline – or you procrastinated/were not organized – thus the stress – solution maybe you need to start the project sooner OR be more organized.)

The purpose of this exercise is to paint a picture of where you are getting stuck or leaking VITAL ENERGY (definition of Vital=necessary to the continuation of life).

Let me know what you find out and how I can help if you need support gathering up your life force…….

What I have shared with you today is one of many lessons from the Visible Blueprint

“7 steps to more Time, Money & Love by being Seen, Heard & Valued in your WORLD”

You are the Spirit – the Life Force of your family…..You deserve to learn to preserve your vitality and in turn you will be able to give back MORE to those you love most.

Vitally Yours,

the “Busy Mom Mentor”

Author of “The Visible Blueprint”

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Are you too Needy?

Every mom has the ability to do so much for her family and at times your tank is running on empty but you don’t even know it……Moms are so good at taking care of their family’s needs but what happens when mom’s needs are not being cared for?

First, if there are any signs of sadness, resentment or depression, it is imperative you start looking deep inside yourself and trying to figure out why you feel this way. Here is the kicker, awareness is usually thehardest step. Once aware of the problem you can then do something about it.

What is the underlying reason you are feeling this way?

Example:

You’ve lost who “you are”? What I mean by this is that sometimes when we get busy in our busy-ness we are focusing so much on the others AND we forget what we were like and liked before family. So, you suddenly find that you no longer know what you like to do and what you want from life. You don’t know who “you” are because you have forgotten to nurture this part of yourself.

Maybe you are afraid of abandonment (children eventually spend more time with friends/grow up and move on) or maybe emotional abandonment?

Is there something in your past, an event that is causing your baggage to trigger some deep unresolved emotions that could be interfering in the intimacy of your current relationship (ex: abandonment, abuse, etc.?)

Does your spouse or children make comments or do things that chip away at your self esteem? It is important to figure out where the feelings are coming from. Once you pinpoint this it makes it easier to find a resolve and create some healing steps to feed and nurture YOUR needs.For example, if you found that you once had goals and dreams that faded away with the decision to have a family and now realize that you have lost who you are, then you could start with figuring out what it is you want to achieve in your life. Are there places you still want to travel to or skills you want to learn? Remember this is about finding things that you would want for yourself.Ask yourself what do you like to do and then start doing it on your own. Even if you say you do not know anymore what it is you like to do….simply begin by making a list of what you do NOT like to do ….and guess what…what you like to do is simply the opposite.

Then you could spend time doing what you love which would build up your skills, self esteem and self confidence in the area that makes your heart sing and also for yourself.

Now, most importantly you will be focusing at times on yourself, (as well as your family).

In a relationship(s – kids and spouse), it is really beneficial to know what makes you happy and to be “complete” whether the other person(s) is there or not.

Ask yourself:

Is this a self esteem issue or a conflict between you and another in your family…if so the solutions will be different. You need to identify first, the root of your neediness.

Also, figure out the trigger (how does this happen?). Pay attention to what is going on for you when this feeling arises. What circumstances contribute to the feelings in you? Then, how do you respond/react? Watch yourself like you’re a witness to the event. Paying attention to HOW these needy feelings get stirred up will be valuable to figuring out a long term solution.

If this feeling arises whenever your spouse is not paying enough attention to you, you can ask yourself …”does this mean he does not love me?” Ask yourself “ Just because he is not paying enough attention to me, does that mean he does not love me?” Most likely you will then realize that this behaviour doesn’t mean this at all. That YOU created that thought or belief. YOU will have to then work through those emotions or get some help.

And guess what – whether is it about your kids and the endless hours you give to them OR the lack of appreciation or love you feel is missing from your spouse….YOU will learn, by asking yourself this simple question if this is a belief your have about yourself as well. You might have veered so far from YOUR LIFE SCRIPT (path), you might be feeling that no one appreciates or loves you.

You can simply change this old belief by writing it down and then a new one that reflects the truth. Going forward you can catch yourself each time you are thinking the old belief, and then say the new one. Ex: “Everyone is happy and busy doing their own thing and I can love myself by spending some time catching up on MY goals and dreams” (fill in what the goal or dream is at the end of the NEW belief statement). It then becomes a matter of re-programming your thoughts.

Remember this process may take some time….all habits begin with thoughts that are followed repetitively. YOU have the power and choice over what you think. It is easy to think the same old habitual thoughts…but it is freeing and empowering to think new productive thoughts that create a positive momentum in your life, create self confidence AND fulfill your dreams.

Begin by exploring and don’t be afraid of the emotions that may arise. The emotions are a good thing…a release plus you will be create a better understanding of yourself and become much stronger. Being needy is okay…we all need each other…but when your neediness cripples your ability to enjoy your life and those you love then it is time to take a long look at what YOUR own needs are and HOW YOU can fulfill them yourself.

If you would like to GAIN SOME CLARITY and begin to take back your life and fulfill YOUR dreams….Contact me at support@whenmomshappy.com and I will schedule for you a 30 min rapid coaching discovery session at a ONE TIME NO CHARGE RATE. (regular 150.00)

Copy and paste the following questions ….fill in the answers forward to me and within 48 hours I will send you my available appt times for scheduling.

1. What do you most want to
change today?
2. Have you tried to change
this before?
3. What have you attempted
in the past that didn’t work?
4. Why do you think it didn’t
work?
5. On a scale of 0-10, how
important is it for you to
achieve change today?
6. What other areas of your
life do you want to change
(if any)?
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10. Time Zone

Check off the areas you’d most
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__ Business
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Imagine a Life without Fatigue

I was told once by a friend of mine (who just happened to be a naturopath ) when I was about 25 ( pre kids) that most adults with kids are chronically sleep deprived.

Now back then at 25, I was not yet a mom, but I was riding high on the adrenals of my new career, putting in tons of hours…which set me up, along with my programmed “work ethic”, to begin the slippery slope into adrenal fatigue from workaholism.

I was so determined to succeed that I threw many of the great common sense habits of health and vitality out the window.

So today I want to share with you 5 great common sense tips that will help you regain your vitality plus a link to a great program (that is free to join) that will support you in stepping out from your ” mom world” and learn about giving back the gifts that you were born to give the world.

Sleep. Resist the temptation to burn the candle at both ends! Getting 8-10 hours a night of sleep is one of the best ways to restore your adrenal glands. It’s best to turn in early if you can. Drink herbal tea or consider a natural herbal supplement to help you wind down. And if you need one and can, take a nap during the day.

Modify your exercise. Some of my patients feel great after they exercise. If this is you, stick with it. Others feel drained with exercise and it’s important to take it slow. Mornings are best for aerobic exercise but try not to let your heart rate go above 90 beats per minute. Try relaxing walks, yoga, or any kind of exercise that restores you instead of draining you.

Eat well and often. Eating certain foods, and at specific times of the day can help you avoid the “crash and burn” of sugar/caffeine highs and lows. One important point: a hungry body puts stress on the adrenals, so don’t let yourself go too long without a meal or a snack.

Relieve stress. Schedule a massage or enlist a partner or friend to give you one; practice yoga, t’ai chi or qi gong; put up your feet and enjoy a cup of tea; or call a loved one just to talk. Cultivate the practices that best relieve tension and stress for you. Even just five minutes a day of quiet breathing or meditation can do wonders.

Play. Take a good look at your life, and let go of as many of the things that drain you as possible, replacing them with those that fulfill you. Engage with the people, activities, and work you most enjoy: go to the beach, play with your grandchildren, go dancing — whatever you have fun doing, give yourself permission to do it during this time of healing.

*Special treat for you today: Are you ready to live your life with NO LIMITS?

Join Yours Truly, and over 30 other experts who are just chomping at the bit to help you reach your fullest potential: No Limits Telesummit ( It is happening right now and as I said it is absolutely FREE to join).

Here is just a sample of what you will learn from the No Limits Telesummit:

Remember to scroll down the page and check out my video on Motherhood. My call airs Tomorrow, Wednesday May 7th at 10 Am PST/1 pm EST.

Don’t worry if you are busy, sign up anyways and you will have access to the recording.

Plus I have a special gift for all of you. Want to put the sizzle back in your relationship? For all those on the call you will find out how to get access to an interview called “Beyond Sex – Tantra”….it is telling, tasteful and tantalizing.

Join the No Limits Telesummit HERE

Have a wonderful Tuesday, take a time out for you, MOM

…and remember, ” When Moms Happy, Everyone’s Happy”