Archive for November, 2010

~ The Gift ~

All my life I carried this underlying fear that my mother would die….and leave me. I guess that was normal or acceptable when I was a child but as I grew up this fearful feeling did not leave.

As a child I was terrified of not knowing what came after death. Where did we go….what did it feel like….was it the vast darkness I saw when I closed my eyes, the feeling of being so all alone. Well whatever it was or is….. This fear gripped me. AND I projected it on my Mother.

Poor woman she did not know how to comfort me…sometimes she would simply get so frustrated and angry she would raise her voice and tell me that I was scaring her with my concerns.

However as I grew up I began to keep this to myself …but the feeling never left.

I did however learn to cope. I remember one time going on a ‘road trip’ with my boyfriend….feeling angst and thought “what if I never see my mom again”? What if I had not told her I loved her and I could never tell her again? So at that point I decided that every time I spoke with my mother I would end our conversation by saying goodbye and that I loved her.

Well you can imagine if all of a sudden your adult child began to tell you with every phone call, every meeting/visit…. “goodbye, I love you”….that you may wonder what that was all about ( if you were not used to this)….. So one day my mom said to me, “Mona, you don’t have to tell me every time we say goodbye to each other that you love me. I know you love me dear.”

Which I simply replied, “ Mom, I know that you know I love you….but it makes ME feel good to say it to you.” At that point my mom probably said “oh, Mona”…..but she never questioned it again…… and because my mom was a better giver than a receiver in some way I think she thought she was giving me a “gift “ by letting me tell her I loved her all the time.

What happened from then on until the day she really did leave me was every single time I saw her for a visit or spoke with her on the phone I felt good that I told her how much I loved her and she felt good knowing that I liked to tell her how much I loved her…..and the bonus…. well, she, overtime expected this salutation and in turn told me every time that she loved me too.

So we each gave this gift and in turn we each received the gift too.

You may wonder about my fear now that she is really gone. Well that is a gift too….with her passing and me sitting there holding her lifeless hand I realized that we have absolutely no control over when we slip from this life to the next in death BUT we do have control of what we do and what gifts we give and receive while we are here and they are simply choices…. that we can cherish.

Please feel free to share your stories of gifts you have received and given with me and with your permission I will share them with others….for a story is a gift to be shared.

Ps. Look for a message from me soon…..for those of you who feel worn out and unappreciated at home or work….. Coming soon “The Visible Blueprint” is it your time to be seen, heard and valued in YOUR world?….2011

Mona McClelland
Your Abundant Life Guide

…..a Cure for any Disease?

The bugs are becoming Super….the junk food is becoming Super Sized? Hmmm any correlation?

Well I think there is…… It wasn’t too many years ago….in fact 40 years ago I remember as a kid I was sitting in front of the TV where a group of people were sitting in bleachers and a circle was drawn around one out of every 10. The commentator then said imagine “you could be 1 out of 10 that gets cancer” or something to that effect. I am not sure why that stood out in my mind for this many years…..but now I think the ratio for cancer is 1 in two. OMG! What happened?

Well I could go on and on but I suggest you go to this site and see for yourself. This is definitely something that your doctors don’t want you to know……or is it they don’t know so they cannot tell you?

Twenty years ago I got sick……my body let me know that it did not like what I was putting in it… all the chemicals that were streaming in my system from my work. Not surprising my body did not like the diet of coffee, bran muffins and frozen chicken pot pies, ammonia and formaldehyde.

Water, that was for bathing and showering in, it didn’t taste good to drink……have another coffee. What was I thinking….. I just didn’t know?

Here is the information we have all been waiting for…….. If this can work to reverse and heal diabetes…..what other diseases can be cured? Cancer?

Listen and then you decide.

To Your Health….To Your Life!!!

Mona McClelland
Your Abundant Life Guide